Parent with Aspergers?

[silverglitterpisser]

Hi all,

My parent has Aspergers Syndrome. I've known they were different all my life but only became aware of the actual condition when my DC was diagnosed with the same about 8 years ago.

Life is .... stressful. I am permanently frustrated trying to support them but meeting obstacle after obstacle of their making. They live alone after divorce n have little contact with my sibling (who is an arsehole, not my parent's fault) so there is only me to help.

Parent is independent n capable. Loving parent, lovely person but utterly disorganised n socially unaware. Has been ill for the last month n needed extra tlc.

I feel guilty even typing this n I know they can't help it but a lifetime of frustration at being talked over, having to adhere to someone else's obsessions, feeling unappreciated n having to almost parent my parent is taking its toll. I feel mentally frazzled every time we talk or meet .

Does anyone else have experience of this? How do u cope?

[Icecreamsandwich]

I have a parent with undiagnosed but blatant Aspergers. There's a thread here in case it's helpful: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2397490-Parent-with-undiagnosed-AS-long

Sorry you are having a tough time. The National Autistic Society helpline is pretty good.

[silverglitterpisser]

Thank u! Will read with interest. I did search for a thread of this nature but did not find urs .

[Icecreamsandwich]

I think there's precious little information out there for children of parents who have it. I'm not in a position to give advice as I'm NC with my parents but wanted to give you the link.

[silverglitterpisser]

Yes, I am the world's leading expert on parenting Aspie children after having done immense research when DC was diagnosed but am clueless over my parent,might b time for research in that field now.. .. Thank u so much for the link .