One of my previous posts www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2359087-Its-me-again-some-updates
Still finding it tough everyday. Crying pretty much everyday cos I dont know how to move forward.
I pretty much acknowledge that relationships are hard and love is not enough. Apart from being tourtured by my previous unfaithful behaviour, I feel remorseful that he didnt seem to feel bad for his previous behaviour at all. He did say that he felt awful for emotionally and physically abusing me, but most of the time he tried to minimise his mistakes by saying he only hit me once and that was an 'accident'. And also said that he emotionally abused me cos he was ignorant.
It has been almost 3 months. He wanted to "work things out" but were too "busy" to even make a counselling appointment. I got put off by him postponing taking merely 1 mins to make an appointment, so I said i dont care about the counselling anymore. Then he later blamed me on him not making the appointment.
He is happily going off with his mates to have fun, has done no work on our relationship apart from making a list of what we should do to improve, after I baggered him to.
I really want to move on but don't know how, not because I am trapped with any sort of responsibilities. I do still have false hopes, hopes that this might work, and i still do love him. But I havn't been happy for almost a year. I don't see that i can ever be happy with him. JUst dont know how to move on...
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Abuser said he did it cos he was ignorant
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samantha303 · 27/06/2015 23:07
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