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I think this is a ltb.

(5 Posts)
Inneedofclarity Sat 27-Jun-15 12:19:02

Iv just found out my oh has been lying again about an issue regarding incidents at work. Don't want give too much info for fear of outing but don't want to drip feed. He has previous for lying, it seems it's his automatic response to things, although recently iv had no cause to suspect anything amiss I thought we had made progress. I found a part of letters from his employer saying that he is facing disciplinary action ie sacked for gross misconduct. He lied about the issue and downplayed it but my gut told me something else going on. He eventually showed me all of the paperwork and has admitted some of the lies but I can't believe any of what he says. I don't know whats truth and what's a lie. It's time to walk away isn't it?

SylvaniansAtEase Sat 27-Jun-15 12:30:15

Yes.

Unless you want this to be your life from now on.

Never trusting, never knowing what's about to happen or whether the man who says he loves you is lying to your face yet again.

Can you imagine having children with this guy, having their security depending on him?

He's a liar and he always will be. Get out now and find someone worth being with.

molyholy Sat 27-Jun-15 12:36:18

Yes. You don't trust him and once you have lost the trust in a relationship, where is there to go?

Inneedofclarity Sat 27-Jun-15 13:24:08

We have dc. This is going to be awful but I can't go on with a liar. Don't know how I'm going to cope on my own. Also have a wedding to cancel. This is a living nightmare. I'm mortified.

muchhappierthesedays Sat 27-Jun-15 13:36:46

Don't be mortified-you have done nothing wrong. Your post is similar to what I posted last summer-weirdly my username was inneedofsomeclarity. Making the initial first step to separate was hideous but from the moment I told my mum (no-one knew there were issues) there was no going back. I put up with lies daily for nearly 12 years and uncovered some awful ones afterwards but all I feel is relief, immense, can now sleep soundly at night relief. We have 2 young dds and they are so much better off with just me. He still lies and is a cock but thankfully he is no longer my cock. You can do this and in a surprising short space of time, you will look back and feel happier. Keep posting for support, it really does help and if you can, tell someone in rl.

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