Long story for a basic question:
Met at uni, bought a house together to rent to other students (using parental money, it was parent investment), fell out in 3rd year, sold house through lawyers, mutual friends got us in touch again 4 years later. Friends again, holidayed together while both single. She lived in London, I used to travel a lot with work so saw her often when flying out of Heathrow. She rarely visited me (but then she didn't feel that she needed to because I was always in London). I changed jobs, so no longer in London very often, she visited me even more rarely than before (like twice in 4 years). She'd drive past where I lived to visit other friends, or even parents of other friends, yet not drop in. Claimed I was her 'best friend', 'a radiator, not a drain like the others', yet clearly not the case!
Was just about to fade her when her boyfriend proposed and she asked me to be bridesmaid. Impossible to turn down, and her mum was disabled, so no one to help her organise stuff. I ended up doing a LOT for her wedding, and being bridesmaid. She was awful bridezilla, and ultimately the wedding issues ended our friendship. She had a baby and became even more crap at being an actual 'friend', so the fade happened quite naturally.
I've not seen her since 2008, nor contacted her in any way since then. She however still texts me on my birthday, sends me emails about how much she misses me, comments in Facebook messages about my profile photos (I've now blocked her), and is generally a bit 'not getting the message' about our 'friendship'. Apart from these messages etc, I don't miss her or think about her. I've just got one tonight... a huge waffle about what an amazing person I am. Since I last saw her I've changed careers, moved house/cities, met my partner, had a baby... she's got no idea whether I'm amazing or not! I can't imagine being 'friends' with her anymore, it's too weird.
Would you actually SAY something in response, or just let her carry on until it stops?
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ohthegoats · 26/06/2015 23:19
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