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Left my drug using Husband

(10 Posts)
magicgirl79 Fri 26-Jun-15 21:55:35

Ok I have done it, enough was enough, I have need my marriage with my cannabis using H.

I could no longer deal with the ups and downs with his moods and everytime I or he walked through the door I would wonder how his mood was.

Everything seemed to revolve around him and his needs.

I was unable to have a good time socialising as he was paranoid which left me feeling guilty. Our child was worried about telling dad if she was in trouble as he gets angry.

Although he was honest, a non cheater, and never physically abusive, things have been hard.

I love him, I just hope I have done the right thing!

FriendofBill Fri 26-Jun-15 21:59:03

You have done the right thing.
No more creeping around cannabis moodiness.
Your DD now has hope of learning about healthy relationships.

mrstweefromtweesville Fri 26-Jun-15 22:01:39

well done.

paxtecum Fri 26-Jun-15 23:16:50

Well done!
Funnily enough, I was wondering, earlier today how you were getting on.

You will now be living in a happy home with your DD.

NettleTea Fri 26-Jun-15 23:48:04

I remember your threads, and you have definately done the right thing. You will notice a huge change in your DD and that will make you realise how free and happy your life can be

Uhohwhatisthat Fri 26-Jun-15 23:56:07

I could have wrote your post 2 years ago I was in exactly the same situation re the cannabis use , moods etc. I left him after 15 years and I can honestly say it the best thing I ever did .
My life is so much better and my dc are so much happier .
You will have moments where you will ask yourself if you did the right as I did but you will come out the other end thinking how the hell did i put up with that behaviour for so long . That's when you realise it was the right decision.

Sconejamcream Sat 27-Jun-15 08:06:11

Good for you. Hopefully he will become drug free and you can get together if you want. Well done.

Newtobecomingamum Sat 27-Jun-15 11:21:16

You HAVE done the right thing for you and your child.

Well done for finding the strength, I wish my friend would do the same. Sadly, she puts up with it and has a really miserable unhappy life. You now have the chance to build a happier life for you and your little one. flowers

magicgirl79 Sat 27-Jun-15 21:18:11

Yes I doubt myself all the time that I have done the wrong thing.

As I said through out, compared to some of the stories I read on here he could have been a lot worse, but I knew the situation couldn't continue year after year. Im a very anxious person and didn't want my D to be the same as it is crippling.

I don't see us ever getting back together regardless of love, I feel he should have stopped when he knew the effects it had on out marriage, he chose not to and that makes me see him in a very different light.

paxtecum Sun 28-Jun-15 07:18:20

It's a great time of year to be making a new life for yourself and your DD.
Did you leave or did you ask him to leave?

I remember you saying he didn't work, so don't go feeling sorry for me and give him any money.

You know that you've done the right thing.

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