Hi everyone I'm new so sorry of its not in the right place and sorry if this is a long first post.
Me and my husband quit smoking years ago, as we have both had family members die of cancers caused by smoking and we have 2children decided it isn't worth the risk, and we both were clear how we felt about it. my husband was dealing with a lot of stress in his job plus we lived with my parents which wasn't ideal and I ha suspicions of him smoking but never pushed it.He got a new job which he claims is loads better and we also have our own house now, but he always seemed to me on another planet taking every opportunity to get out of the house and he hardly spent any time with me or the kids, I noticed he did come in smellin of smoke but as we lived round the corner from his step dad I thought maybe he had just gone round there they smoke and thought the smoke has got on him that way, so I didn't ask. but I could smell it on his breath etc. one day I wasn't feeling myself and he went out to walk our dog and come in stinking of smoke. So I went to investigate, and found a pack of cigarettes in his pocket. it all kicked off and he said he wasn't going to do it anymore. I went out and got him an ecig and he was quite happy with that,but I don't think it's satisfying his needs as we constantly seem to be spending more money each week. he told me he wasn't getting the throat hit any more so wanted to go onto a hight nicotine level to satisfied his addiction and he was in a miserable snappy mood all day, but next day we got it sorted and he seemed happy but now he wants a higher box mod which is even more expense.
I dont know what to do. part of me feels like just say stuff it and let him get on with his smoking. my fear is off the side effects and all the problems that come with it. I want my husband to be happy,and part of me says life is too short to be unhappy and it's not like he might get a smoking related cancer anyways. but then if he does I would be gutted. I'm hurt and my head is all over the place I am constantly thinking about it all the time. What hurt the most is that my husband was happy not to hug or kiss me, in case I found out or smelt it , also just not giving a damn about us,and what we had talked about. he said he smoked because of being board at work or stress and he didn't know what else to do. I used to smoke its the last thing I would do is smoke. I just think he did it because he wanted too.
I just want advice on what people would do, as I cannot think straight as its close to my heart. x
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butterfly198615 · 26/06/2015 19:11
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