I split up with dh 3 months ago after being miserable for years, dh was emotionally abusive, we rarely did anything together and he wasn't a great dad to the dc's, basically our marriage (for me ) was over years ago. My dm knew how miserable I was and often told me to leave him, when I finally did I thought she would support me but she hasn't really at all. At one point I was so low I wanted to self harm but she would not support me. Now I'm feeling more positive and have more confidence and I want to draw a line under the marriage and move on, I want a divorce as soon as possible but my dm thinks I am rushing things and should wait a couple years, she's got to the point where she refuses to talk to me if ask her for any help or advice, she also refuses to talk about me seeing other people and gets really narky with me, she thinks I should stay single and concentrate on my dc's (I have always put the dc's first but I don't understand why I can't have something for me too ).
I feel that I can not talk to my mum about anything, I don't really have anyone else to talk too. I just want her to be happy that I am moving on and feeling better about myself. I have met someone that I really like, I know it's very early days and I'm taking things very slowly, I know she thinks 3 months after breaking up with dh is way too early and to most people it probably is but I feel my marriage was over years ago, I have been lonely for years, why can't she just be happy for me?
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Relationship with mother whilst going through divorce with dh
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Nevergoingtolearn · 26/06/2015 11:30
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