So, some brief back story. I have been unhappy in our marriage for years. H is not nice to me and our relationship in now so sour we basically just muddle along as long as I don't cause any problems. We have no future and as much a ending it scares me, the thought of carrying on scares me more.
I feel that I am now finally ready to make a break from him. I've started looking in to tax credits etc on my salary and I'm compiling copies of papers etc and plan to find and see a local solicitor in the next couple of weeks. I need to do this before I tell him that I want to end the marriage as he has always threatened me saying he will take the children, he will get the family home, leave me penniless etc. Deep down I know that I have the law on my side but I want to have a basic understanding of what I can expect to walk away with so that his threats don't scare me so much.
My question is knowing he's going to go mad about this when I tell him, how can I get him to decide that it would be best if he leaves the family home. Day to day, apart from one morning a week, I manage all school drop offs and pick ups, do all day to day care of the kids, manage everything at home (shopping, cooking, cleaning, washing etc) and work 3 days. He goes to work! The point being it makes sense for me to remain here so I can maintain as much normality for our children as possible.
I think I could just about bear to have him continue to live here initially as long as some ground rules are set, but I would imagine this is going to become unbearable once he realises that I am actually entitled to more than he thinks and he starts to get angry.
I'd appreciate any thoughts or similar experiences that anyone can share.
I also plan to initially ask that we go to mediation to discuss splitting assets etc. My aim with this is to try and keep things as amicable as poss and to keep costs down. Does anyone have experience of this with an angry and potentially difficult partner?
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How to get husband to leave famiy home when I tell him it's over?
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lifebeginsat42 · 25/06/2015 09:27
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