My dad owes me nearly 1k that I have lent him over the months to help out with bills. He works full time on NMW. There is just me and my dad at home - older brothers all moved out. My mum died when i was a teen. I am mid 20's.
He drinks beer every single night. I kick off because he doesn't seem to grasp that stopping drinking will save money. Doesn't understand that he shouldn't drink when he owes money out. He lives in his overdraft.
He says I need to stop telling him to live his life, that he is 60 years old and can do what he wants. I have told him i don't care if he drinks, he can drink every night if he wants, so long as he can afford it which he can't.
We argue all the time. He isn't like this with my brothers. I am skint now until i get paid because he owes me so much. I worry so much about money and his bills, i don't want to know he is in trouble whilst I still live under the same roof but I cannot afford to move out either.
I am so stuck as to what to do. He never listens and he is always right according to him. He isnt' the kind to sit down and listen to how I feel. He just shouts all the time and threatens me with "i will never do so and so for you ever again" or "you can have every single penny of your money back and i wont pay the bills in the meantime cos i cant afford".
I feel sick with stress. I've told my brother and he told me to leave.
I hate him right now. We used to get on well but all we do is argue.
Surely I am not in the wrong to suggest he cuts down on his alcohol. I don't buy things i cant afford, especially if i owed somebody money
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Dad wont stop drinking. In debt. Owes me money.
Loo5125 · 24/06/2015 16:44
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