It has really helped. The counsellor is lovely and I feel she is good at what she does. My mood improved greatly, and I feel like I have hope now, and a future, which was lacking before.
But this week I have struggled again. With negative thoughts, low mood etc. There are situations in my life that I cannot change, I must accept them, and I really felt like I had, but this week some (minor) things happened that had me overwhelmed again, and now I am unsure as to what to do next. I feel like the counsellor feels that we are nearing the stage at which I wouldn't need to go anymore (it is private so no time limit) but I feel like my issues are so deeply ingrained, almost like I don't know any other way to be, that I am not sure how much therapy I actually need to move on from them.
At the back of my mind there is also the fact that at the next session we are going to be discussing a very serious event that up to now I stayed away from talking about, because it is too traumatic and upsetting. I know I need to face it, and I want to, but I have been having headaches this week which I usually only get rarely and I think it is because I am stressed about that. So maybe that is affecting the rest of the issues.
The counsellor had suggested some courses she thinks I would benefit from, and a career path she feels I would be suited to. It took me a while, but I agree, and I see now that she has suggested these things because she knows that it is what I truly want to do (sorry to be so cryptic) but there is still something holding me back from taking the step and enrolling on the course. Mainly negative thoughts about my abilities and me as a person generally. We have addressed all these issues, and I know it is up to me to keep going, but I seem to always revert back into that frame of mind.
So this is quite long and a bit rambly, sorry. I hope it makes sense. What I want advice on is whether this is normal, and that counselling is really only a starting point to be continued on by myself, or is it normal to feel that 12 weeks isn't enough for so many different and deeply ingrained issues? I don't want to become dependent on my counsellor, but I don't feel like I am able to take the reins yet either.
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sliceofsoup · 23/06/2015 22:19
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