I have had a couple of long term relationships, and recently turned 31. As I was single I decided to get myself out there again, and I met someone online after a week. He is lovely to me - polite, genuine and seems extremely honest - at least when we talk he is very candid and upfront and his sincerity draws me to him more. We've seen each other a lot over the last 6 months, and after 2 dates he asked to be exclusive.
But...I want a family and a marriage. And here is my concern: he had a long term relationship that ended because he couldn't commit (his words!). She wanted marriage and a family and he 'wasn't ready.' They were together for 6 years. He tells me he wants all these things eventually/they are important to him, and says that things weren't always right with him and his ex, but also said he is a very careful person when it comes to these kids of life decisions. He's 34 so I feel a little like I may end up like his exDP, as in he won't change and it's not like he will suddenly be different with me, is it?
We have talked about this a little, and he just laughs it off and tells me he thins i'm incredible and i make him very happy. He also says things like 'with his ex he knew for a while it wasnt right etc.' But I don't feel I can tell him my full concerns, maybe I should....
My concerns are also based around my past relationships - two men who always talked about marriage and the future, but it never happened. I don't want to marry this man right now, or even this year, but if it carried on as it is, then in a year's time I think I would be more than ready.
Am I wasting my time?
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How to distinguish men who commit, to those who don't. Am I wasting my time?
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bootsmadeforwalking · 23/06/2015 13:46
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