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:(It's my fault

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Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 19:16:30

What do I expect when I allow him back into my life sad

ALaughAMinute Mon 22-Jun-15 19:40:49

What's happened? Why did you allow him back into your life?

goddessofsmallthings Mon 22-Jun-15 19:43:08

If you allow an abuser back into your life you know exactly what to expect namely, more of the same.

MrsEvadneCake Mon 22-Jun-15 19:47:30

Why is he back in your life?

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 20:00:10

I didn't expect the same or worse

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 20:00:31

I expected better much better but I know un stupid

DrElizabethPlimpton Mon 22-Jun-15 20:02:53

You are not stupid. You hoped for something out of your control.

If you got rid once, you can do it again.

Best of luck.

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 20:02:59

I did it because I had to I'm nor well and had no help but now it's gone wrong

RinkRashDerbyKisses Mon 22-Jun-15 20:05:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 20:19:24

No rl support don't know what to do

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 20:21:17

He back in my life because I needed help

MrsEvadneCake Mon 22-Jun-15 20:23:24

How much longer do you need the help (I understand why now!) and is there any way of getting some other support like through a children's centre volunteer?

MrsEvadneCake Mon 22-Jun-15 20:24:09

Are you safe happy or in danger physically at the moment?

Vivacia Mon 22-Jun-15 20:30:28

What's happened for you to decide it's gone wrong?

Did your surgery go ok?

Vivacia Mon 22-Jun-15 20:31:27

(People will find it very difficult to offer you meaningful support, let alone advice, if you are cryptic rather than clear. Give people the information to help you flowers).

AnyFucker Mon 22-Jun-15 21:36:00

what is the point of posts like this, seriously ?

if you really want help or advice, or even just sympathy give people something to work with

if what you need is a RL person to just talk to, I recommend The Samaritans

if you are in danger, call the police

what else can we say ?

MyGastIsFlabbered Mon 22-Jun-15 21:40:39

Happy I think I remember your last thread, am I right that you were having surgery and needed your ex to help with childcare? Can you explain what's gone wrong?

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 21:46:16

Sorry for being not clear not feeling very well to write to much so shaky never mind will try again when Im making more sence sorry

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 21:47:02

Sorry any was upset when posted was going to come back when have time to explain

Happyandsimple Mon 22-Jun-15 21:47:47

Don't want no sympathy at al I already said it's my fault I let him in

MyGastIsFlabbered Mon 22-Jun-15 21:50:21

Come back whenever you're ready, there'll always be someone to talk to you. Are you safe?

goddessofsmallthings Mon 22-Jun-15 23:10:38

Honey, you got rid of him once and you can do it again - and as many times as it takes to get shot of him forever.

flowers hope you're feeling better soon

anniebear71 Mon 22-Jun-15 23:18:21

I remember you other post. Sending lots of love. Sometimes it's not so easy to make sense when you post when you are upset, I'm sure most understand that, you don't need to apologise xx

MaggieJoyBlunt Tue 23-Jun-15 01:02:41

Women do go back. Sometimes many times. You're not the first or the last.

Self-flagellation won't butter any parsnips smile

What are your health problems? What support do you need that you haven't got? What is the situation with your OH ATM? Has he moved back in?

Happyandsimple Tue 23-Jun-15 06:33:35

In bed can't get out of bed had my kidney removed in so much pain. Shaking in pain he said he can't find were he puts the meds

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