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Tips for a happy marriage

(45 Posts)
MsColouring Mon 22-Jun-15 19:03:58

I am getting married for the second time in December. First marriage was a disaster. Ex EA and I completely lost who I was. Feel I have got it right this time.

Was wondering from those who consider themselves to be in happy marriages (or long term relationships) what makes your marriage work?

KatieScarlettreregged Mon 22-Jun-15 19:07:05

A sense of humour.
Zero tolerance on disrespectful behaviours.
Freedom to be yourself.

HermioneWeasley Mon 22-Jun-15 19:09:57

Separate duvets.

FlourishingMrs Mon 22-Jun-15 19:16:58

Committing to the right person,
accepting their bad and good habits.
Not expecting to change them

MairzyDoats Mon 22-Jun-15 19:24:06

Friendship I think. Genuinely liking your partner as a person.

AliceInSandwichLand Mon 22-Jun-15 19:27:59

Separate interests and friends some of the time and not being jealous of these (unless real cause, of course). Same sense of humour. Some things in common. A willingness to let some stuff go.

MoJangled Mon 22-Jun-15 19:30:32

A measure of understanding. different people tick in different ways, and having some insight into what makes your DP tick, and vice versa, is a fantastic relationship satnav.

thornyhousewife Mon 22-Jun-15 19:32:40

I think liking each other helps. And just trying to make life easy for each other. No drama.

Justmuddlingalong Mon 22-Jun-15 19:32:42

Him working 1 week nightshift out of every fortnight. I get the bed to myself.

sparechange Mon 22-Jun-15 19:34:09

Datenight. Doesn't even have to be out of the house. Just phones down and engaging and being a bit soppy.

And separate bathrooms...

LaurieFairyCake Mon 22-Jun-15 19:34:19

Being each other's biggest supporter and champion

Zillie77 Mon 22-Jun-15 19:36:49

Being attracted to each other
Loving each other tons
Being patient with each other
Mutual respect
Fun times

flora717 Mon 22-Jun-15 19:51:08

Friendship. Admiration (not undue nor pedestal / awe). Joy in their company. Respect (always).

DrElizabethPlimpton Mon 22-Jun-15 19:59:43

Similar values and beliefs
A sense of humour

Ouchbloodyouch Mon 22-Jun-15 20:32:27

I'm not married but my new mantra (from Tony Gaskins) if its not worth splitting up over its not worth fighting over.
I like that...

JohnFarleysRuskin Mon 22-Jun-15 20:33:22

Marrying the right person.

Having a cleaner.

mayhew Mon 22-Jun-15 20:35:04

Being good friends who are always kind to each other. Loyalty.

Wonkina123 Mon 22-Jun-15 20:36:56


WorldsBiggestGrotbag Mon 22-Jun-15 20:37:49

Being nice/kind to each other. In my past long term relationship we weren't always nice to each other. With DH, we always are. He's my favourite person and I never want to be responsible for hurting/upsetting him.

Swex Mon 22-Jun-15 20:39:02

Oooh. I like flora 717 reply. I second that. And the cleaner. And separate sinks. And remember to hug. And never never go to sleep in a strop.

perfectlybroken Mon 22-Jun-15 20:40:58

Allowing your husband/wife to work to their strengths, rather than trying to change them for your convenience. Being as polite with each other as you are with friends, including lots of thank yous!

Flakedorreadyrubbed Mon 22-Jun-15 20:41:02

Defo separate bathrooms. A cleaner. Send his shirts out for ironing.

timetosmile Mon 22-Jun-15 20:43:16

Remember that you're hopefully in this for the long haul, so try to put those annoying little things into a long-term perspective.
Give grace.
Don't look to the other person to meet all your emotional needs.
Be kind whenever you can, little things, cups of tea...
Say thank you a lot, and mean it.

Flisspaps Mon 22-Jun-15 20:44:18


RedRosie Mon 22-Jun-15 20:51:43

Separate bathrooms. Definitely.

That's what I tell all young people contemplating marriage ... Whether they want me to or not.


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