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Dating a man with more money, better travelled, educated.. A bad idea?

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DippyDooDahDay Mon 22-Jun-15 07:06:15

i met someone (via Internet) that seemed reasonably attractive physically and we got on very well via messaging - funny, quick witted etc. I met him in person last night and was totally flustered!! He was far more attractive than his pictures showed, well spoken, well travelled, very intelligent, just all round... Lovely but a little intimidating for the above mentioned reasons.I registered my attraction to him immediately (one of those thunderbolt meetings!) but also was very aware that I felt I had less to offer ifyswm. A friend pointed out that I have had relationships with 'less desirable' guys in the past (who had a multitude of problems and no money). Those relationships took their toll on me. So I think I have pretty low self esteem.
Basically, what I'm waffling and trying to ask is can different backgrounds work? He wants to take me out at the weekend.

badow Mon 22-Jun-15 07:09:27

As it doesn't sound like he's got the least bit of an issue with this, I think you should just go with it! You're creating a problem that isn't there.

Good luck!

messyisthenewtidy Mon 22-Jun-15 07:10:07

Go out with him, don't be in awe and don't put yourself down FGS!

There are more important things in a person than money and education. I'm sure you have a lot to offer. You just need to have confidence and swagger grin

timeforabrewnow Mon 22-Jun-15 07:11:40

Erm. What's the problem?? I'm well travelled, but hadn't realised that made me attractive grin. What's he like as a person? ie if he's kind, funny etc, surely that is a lot more important than how much money he has or where he went to school. He sounds a bit too good to be true to me, but yes, different backgrounds can work.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse Mon 22-Jun-15 07:13:48

Unless you hate travelling and don't like intelligent conversation, I would go for it!

Only worry if the things you find intimidating are things that make you fundamentally incompatible.

Good luck smile

Offred Mon 22-Jun-15 08:02:17

They can do. I think your confidence would be more of a problem though. You don't want to end up in a relationship where the power is imbalanced in a teacher/child way and that can be an attraction for some men like this but if you have confidence in yourself and your worth it is easier to leave any relationship that isn't working out. I guess my advice would be tread carefully, be open to it but ultimately trust yourself - as with any relationship!

Sgtmajormummy Mon 22-Jun-15 08:08:13

Last night was the first time you'd met, so he was obviously trying to make a good impression.
Give it a few more dates and remember nobody is too good for you!

yellowdaisies Mon 22-Jun-15 08:10:39

Go on the date. But make sure at some point to start up a conversation about something you know about/are really interested in, and take note whether he takes an interest in it. There's a risk if you find someone really interesting that you let the conversation be all about them, and if that's all they want to talk about too you'll have a very one sided relationship. You do need someone who finds you interesting too, not just someone who feels good being with you because you're excited by the things be talks about. So give him a chance to take an interest in you.

shovetheholly Mon 22-Jun-15 09:44:44

Go for it! I see absolutely no reason at all that you aren't every bit the equal of this guy.

I know quite a few highly intelligent men who are with women who are less travelled and formally qualified than they are. The reason is that those women aren't actually less intelligent - they just have a different kind of intelligence, and these men find that deeply interesting and attractive. You don't have to have gone to 55 different countries, speak 5 languages and have a PhD to be fascinating to him!

wallypops Mon 22-Jun-15 10:08:57

My partner could reasonably say those things about me. It's never occurred to me to think less of him or more of me. He's lovely, kind and thoughtful. And I sometimes wonder if I'm good enough for him!

Enjoy. Unless you actively dislike and disapprove of money and travel.

Wordylicious Mon 22-Jun-15 10:44:50

Do you think Kate asked herself these questions when she married a prince? grin

No, if she can do it then so can you!

theredjellybean Mon 22-Jun-15 11:11:14

please go on the date and try not to worry...i bet you have done things, been places or have skills he doesn't and he would be in awe of !!!
If he asks you about places you have travelled for instance dont be do down on were you have been, its fine to say you havent travelled ( for example) as extensively as he has but you really enjoyed ....skeggie or wherever...and then maybe enjoy some banter about places you have been is good skill to be able to deflect a conversation if you feel uncomfortable. But basically you are good enough...he liked you , he has asked to see you again...go girl !

oabiti Mon 22-Jun-15 18:16:55

Tell him you've got hidden talents grin...just joking, op!

Hope you do decide to carry on seeing him and, as others have said, stop being down on yourself smile

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