Hi, I am really hoping for some useful advice.
Last summer I finally left my marriage of over 26 years - things had not been going well for some time. It has been a really difficult 10 months but I do feel happier and more in control of my life. My career has been going well since the split. This is partly because I initially concentrated on work to distract myself from everything else but in the past few months I think my work is more productive because I feel more relaxed. Also, I hope to be able to move out of rented accommodation into a v small house of my own fairly soon.
The long term "plan" was that I would get a house + cat and would then try online dating once I was properly settled.
The issue is that in the last few weeks I have started to get close to a colleague. He is in a similar situation to me - separated - temporary accommodation. I really like him and enjoy chatting to him and can see where things could be heading BUT whenever we start to get to a certain closeness emotionally I can feel myself pushing him away. To be frank, I am scared that if we have a relationship and things go wrong then I will be as fragile as I was last summer and won't have work as a refuge.
He has gone away for work for a few days which gives me some thinking space.
Advice appreciated!
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jani64 · 21/06/2015 21:58
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