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Am I expecting too much?

(7 Posts)
vanillachai Sun 21-Jun-15 19:22:16

I have been with my bf for 6 months. He was very keen at the start, full of compliments, wanting to see me all the time (a lot times I refused as I didn't want to rush into anything).
We get on really well and can talk about anything, no arguments yet which is great.

As times gone on and I've decided I do actually quite like him, things seem to have changed with him. He says he still feels the same and still means all the things he said, but he doesn't call as often, doesn't send the sweet messages be used to, in fact doesn't respond to a lot of what I message him. He seems to fit me in rather than want to see me/talk to me. My friends have said I'm lucky I have someone to spend weekends with - but in reality I might get a few hours with him then he's off doing his own thing. I honestly don't have a problem with that as I like my space too, but with everything, I'm starting to wonder where I fit in.

I decided to leave texting him this weekend and see when he messages/calls me. Nothing since Friday morning. I know he's had his dc this weekend but to have absolutely no contact with me...

So what I'm asking is, is this usual for 6 months into a relationship? Is it normal to not have any calls/texts for a few days? Or do I take it he's really not that interested and move on?

DinnaeKnowShitFromClay Sun 21-Jun-15 20:45:06

Actions speak far louder than words Vanilla I wouldn't make any further effort if I were you.

Sickoffrozen Sun 21-Jun-15 20:48:48

Doesn't sound promising but have you maybe been a bit too Cool with him in the early months and he maybe lost a bit of interest?

Hassled Sun 21-Jun-15 20:50:39

I think he's probably one of those idiots who like the thrill of the chase but then can't be arsed when they've actually "got" what they said they wanted. I wouldn't waste your time with him - move on.

ALaughAMinute Sun 21-Jun-15 21:01:06

He may be losing interest or he might think he's got you where he wants you and doesn't need to bother anymore. Either way, if he doesn't call as often and doesn't send the sweet messages he used to then that's not a good sign and doesn't bode well for the future.

I think you should ditch him. Sorry.

vanillachai Sun 21-Jun-15 21:10:16

For a while now I've felt our relationship is basically the occasional night in together and a chat on the phone when he's driving home from work.

We have had a few really nice times together in between and I know he's stressed and busy but I'm not all that happy. This weekend has proved that to me. I've wanted to call/text him, but it's proved what I thought. I'm definitely making more effort than he is.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 21-Jun-15 21:12:11

No, you're not expecting too much but he appears to be giving too little. "Seems to fit you in". That's big of him!

Sack him off. He's not good enough for you

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