Help! Not sure what to do. I have been dating a lovely man for just under a year. He is gentle, kind, and intelligent. The problem is that he gets depression/anxiety. There is a pattern of his leaving jobs due to stress. He tells me that he gets stressed and exhausted, and he definitely seems to want to work. I am of course sympathetic, I just don't know what to do with regards to our relationship. I am a single parent and work full time. He doesn't have any DCs.
I suppose the problem for me begins when I look forwards - I'm worried about moving in together (I don't want to find myself supporting an adult as well as the DCs) and I'm worried about becoming less sympathetic - this sounds horrible - it's just that my life is very busy and I have more responsibilities than he does, but I am always having to be understanding about him. I feel like my own concerns and worries are always swept under the carpet. Partly my fault as I don't like to make a big fuss about every little thing. Sometimes we talk about his worries and I try to think of anything possible to advise and help, but when I have a problem with work or the DCs I just get "oh poor you" and a hug, no advice or anything.
Does anyone have experience of this type of relationship problem? How can I help him whilst not getting resentful? I should add that he is seeing a therapist, and that I have had similar MH problems so can fully empathise.
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How to avoid resenting my DP?
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CappuccinoYoga · 20/06/2015 11:43
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