A year ago today, DP and I found out the baby we had conceived ( granted with a coil fitted ) was ectopic. I've been in bits at work all day. He has been fine. He's only just hugged me now. I have no complaints about him other than this. Am I wrong or irrational to be angry with him right now? Is it my emotions that are off? Probably looking for hand holding as well I suppose
No you are not wrong or irrational. It is very understandable that you should grieve for the pregnancy you lost on the anniversary of finding out you were pg.
I don't think the coil being fitted has much to do with it really - you still were pg and lost your baby.
It is also very understandable that you feel a bit let down that he does not feel the same way as you today. But it might not be that he has forgotten as such, just that for him this day does not have the same stand out significance. He may feel like you do on the anniversary of when you discovered the pg was ectopic for example.
Try to explain how you are feeling and ask for some extra support/niceness. Why not plan something nice or soothing to do tomorrow together.
Sorry for your loss. It will feel easier to live with in time. There are very many women who understand how you feel and have been there too
You are not being irrational to be hurting, at all. You may be a little irrational to be angry with your husband for not having been as visibly upset because of the date. I'm sure he is grieving in his own way, some people don't place as much significance on anniversaries. It's probably your state of mind today that's making you feel so angry about it, maybe try not to take it out on him too much
I'm sorry you have had a rough day. Some people dont put so much meaning onto anniversaries, perhaps your husband is one of them. I could only tell you the date of my ectopic last year because it was my best friends wedding day, and I'm pretty sure my husband wouldn't have any idea what date it was. I didn't think about it on the anniversary this year at all.
It is understandable that you are upset but I'd let this one go about your husband.
Thanks ladies. I reminded him last night and turns out he remembers but didn't know how to approach me about it. I was calm with him after venting on here. Thanks so much for your words it's appreciated.
Poor men (the goodens) sometimes don't know how to react or what to say etc... He may have thought talking about it might have upset you further or really didn't know how best to handle the situation. Doesn't mean that they are feeling the same or thinking, remembering or as upset.