Yes I have well sort of similar re the trust thing I identify with amouring (sp?) your heart against further pain & growing resentment. Dh cheated on me a few weeks before our wedding. 11 years & several kids later we are in the process of separating. I don't regret giving him another chance but ultimately could never fully trust him again & that's been like a poisonous weed in our marriage. We get on well though & of course I'm very sorry for the children when the time comes to tell them but it has been a long time coming & a decision I've made with an awful lot of thought. to you. I think you'll know in your heart whether this is something you can get past.
erm - how exactly is it your fault? Where has anyone said it is? The decision to behave in such a foul way lies firmly at his feet. Or are you going to use that as an excuse to stay too? You cannot fix him or change his behaviour. You can only decide whether you are prepared to put up with this, and if you do put up with it, why?
My goodness, the lies just fall out of his mouth don't they. And not even very good ones! I don't think it matters that it's been a year. You tried, he hasn't been able to rebuild your trust. It's not your fault and you've given the relationship more of a chance than many would.
@jessiePinkman was his cheating some hung you carried around for those 11 years, did the anger ever go away??x Yes the anger went, he said it was a mistake, I forgave him, he's never cheated again. There's nothing he can 'do' it's just that the fundamental trust is not there.
Having a taste for transgender is pretty much like being of a certain sexual orientation. He's not going to suddenly change what turns him on, so I doubt over the past year he has stopped, just hidden it better more like. It will be on his mind, on his computer and in his thoughts at a minimum. Do you really want to live with him knowing that? He is a man with very low boundaries and he's sinking yours to his level. I once dated someone like that, but I was in a weird place myself and just living in the moment, with no plans to have a long term future with him and certainly not children. Wouldn't touch similar with a barge-pole these days, a reflection of being happier in myself and having a healthier and better idea of what makes me happy. Are you happy? Sounds not, that is the only reason you need. There are no rules about what is bad enough to leave, your anguish is enough.
The condoms fell into his bag. You believe that crap?
Wow what a story.
Yeah you made your bed and having a child with him wasn't one of your greatest moments but I believe we make our own destiny. Are you setting yourself up for a fall? Well the chances of that risk are greatly increased with this man.
If you want to stay then get therapy to deal with the trust issues.