My partner has been acting really weirdly lately. He's a nice guy, always being affectionate and everything. Then a few months ago he started acting strange. He barely saw me, was always too busy, stopped being nice towards me and was never affectionate. He did a lot of stupid stuff and basically made me feel like he didn't care. He spent all his time with his friends even if we had plans, he'd cancel last minute to see his mates. I felt like I was just a convenience when he had nothing better to do. I ended up telling him I deserved better, I didn't deserve to always feel miserable and unwanted but he said he wanted to prove he wanted to make things work. I decided to give him one last chance and he suddenly changed back again overnight. Being really loving and attentive and the "old" him.
We were texting on Monday night and he told me he was feeling down. I asked why and he said he didn't know. We don't live together and he was due to come down the following evening and spend his day off here. When he came down he was very clingy, cuddling up with me a lot and asking me not to leave him on his own to go to work the next day. He didn't seem like his usual happy self but every time I asked what was wrong he said he didn't know and that he just felt sad. He said he was a terrible person for treating me how he had been lately and that he had just been feeling low and keeping busy was a distraction and he just wanted to hide away because he knew I would ask him what was wrong.
Now I suffer with depression and have done for many years. I know how to handle it for myself (most of the time) I know that not being able to give a reason for the low feelings you have and nothing being able to get you out of your mood are signs of depression. We have had a rough time lately with our relationship and are just getting back on track. He isn't a big talker when it comes to feelings and emotions. He just seems to want me to be there to comfort him physically like giving him a hug etc which I do gladly. But I don't know if I should suggest him maybe seeing a doctor? When I was depressed, I used to bottle it up but found talking really helps me but he won't talk. I don't want to make him feel bad by mentioning depression. Not that there's anything wrong with being depressed but I know that often men don't want to admit that kind of thing. Does it sound like he might be depressed? If so, what would be the best way to go about talking about it?
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Is he depressed?
Bubblegum89 · 18/06/2015 15:29
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