I don't want to into full details but last year when our dd1 was 6 months I suspected my dh of having an affair with a work colleague. He swore nothing was going on but gut told me otherwise and there was things on fb ( her page) that I wasn't too sure of, few coincidences etc. He was very shifty regarding his phone, would never leave it lying around.
Anyway by Xmas they both ended up working in different offices and was led to believe they hadn't spoken/ texted etc which deep down I knew was bull!!
However about April time I found this to be a complete lie, it turns out they speak all time , only about work apparently. At the time I was angry but seemed ok with the contact as he told me she'd had a shit time blah blah blah and he couldn't just ignore her and she gives him lots of advice work wise.
However fast forward to now and I literally just don't trust him, I can't believe he lied to me over another women, esp someone I was unsure of anyway. His response was it was to protect my feelings.
It's left me so insecure, every little thing he tells me I wonder if it's a lie, if he's late home, doesn't answer his phone I think the worst etc!! I've started to just be really miserable around him, at times I just start on him for no reason as I'm so mad!! My biggest mistake was pretending I was ok with the lie when deep down I wasn't and now it's just festering!!
Help!!! I know my moods and behaviour is probably pushing him away but we have been together neatly 2O years, have never had secrets about anything. I told him at the weekend I'm not happy and i don't trust him and all he said was he's not happy either atm as all we do is argue and it's not gonna work if I don't trust him!!
BUT Will I ever trust him again??
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Will I ever trust him again??
Louisa111 · 18/06/2015 09:07
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