Just been sent the email below by my DM. Running through various responses in my head but so upset can't think coherently - some perspective and objective thoughts would be very welcome
For context:
I am a 40 year old professional who works full time, DGD (my DD) is 4 years old and lives with me and DH.
DB is 36 and lives alone in the town where DM and DDad also live (50 miles from me).
Fiona is my oldest / best childhood friend and also now lives in same town 50 miles away.
DM and DDad have recently been on a weeks holiday. DM and I usually have a good relationship. Despite living 50 miles away she looks after DD one day a week at her own request and DD is very close to her.
I don't even know where / if to start and at the moment am tempted to smile and nod as much as possible. But that doesn't help my own emotional response. . .
"I would like to have a chat when I'm round tomorrow and thought it would be better to give you time to think about things.
Firstly I did not ask you to message DB when I was away but I thought you would. I suspect he would never contact you unless things were very bad because he probably would not dare just as I don't phone you because I feel it is an imposition.
DB is a good person and you used to seem to like him. He obviously loves DGD like all of us do.
I love all of you and don't want to be an interfering mother but I would like people to be a bit closer.
It hurts that you come to X town with DGD to see Fiona but never look near any of us.
Some day I will die and I would be much happier to know that my family felt close to one another. I am writing this now because one day it will be too late.
Please don't reply just speak to me tomorrow when I see you."
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Help getting head round response to this email from DM
sunshineWales · 17/06/2015 08:57
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