Over a year ago DH left me for an older (but childless) OW. We have 4 children together (between reception age and year 7). Because I had to move to a different area all four children are in different schools as schools round here are oversubscribed. Life is complicated as a result. I am the primary carer, I've been a SAHM for 9 years. I know I will have to go back to work but haven't quite got round the logistics of school pick ups/drop offs and holidays. OW is very affluent and has a high flying career. DH (divorce has started but is going slowly) sees the kids EOW (with OW).
Currently finding it hard to deal with the jibes from my children, (particularly the elder two, the 12 year old is worse) about how they like OW more, she buys them magazines and gives them money to spend at Starbucks/New Look/cinema or wherever. ETC . How she 'has a career' and I 'do nothing all day' (this is my 12 year old speaking).
OW is kind and 'doesn't shout', she doesn't tell them off etc (I know I shout sometimes but it's hard when I'm trying to get them all to school/feed the four of them/help with homework/read with them etc etc).
I feel like I'm always the bad guy, and god don't my kids let me know it!
Deep down I probably know that they will make their minds up over time over who was their mum, and who they could really rely on, but I do find it hard sometimes. Perhaps I'm just having a bad few days.
Anyone got any sage words or advice, a voice of experience or just want to give give me a kick up the bum.
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How to ignore children's jibes about me versus OW
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