Please give me advice about how to help my friend. I don't know what counts as abusive but I think my friend is in an abusive relationship. The problem is she has SWORN me to secrecy.
She has confided that she is scared of her DH. DH throws huge temper tantrums - she sort of describes them to me but if I ask any questions she immediately clams up and says quickly that it'll all be fine and that 'DH is just quite stressed at the moment'. She says he breaks furniture and screams at her. She said that's how all the chairs around their table are broken. He hurts himself and throws himself around the room. After the last one he threw himself on the ground and she thinks he broke a small bone in his neck (apparently not as serious as it sounds). He behaves like this in front of their DS (under 2).
I have known her DH for the last ten years and he is quite aggressive on occasion but not physically just verbally. He is also tall and quite imposing. I don't like him much but I generally have to hide that. He is intimately connected with my social circle and always will be (related).
Today we all met up as families at a fete and for about 10 minutes she couldn't find her DH and DS. She told me afterwards it is because she doesn't trust DH with DS. She says he loses it with DS and she was frightened he might do it in public, 'pin him down' or similar. I really didn't know what to say, I just let her talk.
I have only known my friend for a couple of years as she has moved here to be with him. She is 300 miles from her family and old friends. I desperately want her to keep talking so there is no way I can tell anyone else - it would kill our friendship and she will just be more isolated. Please tell me what to do, if anything.
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