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I'm packed and ready to leave

(29 Posts)
TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 11:33:44

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mousmous Sun 14-Jun-15 11:35:11

do you have to tell him?
can you just leave and write?

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 11:35:50

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Theoldcauliflower Sun 14-Jun-15 11:36:33

Just go, why can't you live with him any longer?

gamerchick Sun 14-Jun-15 11:37:40

Well you know then worst that can happen. It might happen again but you can't let that stop you leaving.

After his las asthma attack did he address why you were leaving or was it just brushed under the rug?

RandomMess Sun 14-Jun-15 11:39:25

Or you taking the dc with you?

Perhaps you need to actually give him a couple of weeks notice that you are going? Gives him time to deal with the stress/anxiety or whatever the issues is that brought on the attack.

Hate to be cynical but are you sure he didn't full a fast one with the asthma attack to guilt you into staying??

knowledgeispower Sun 14-Jun-15 11:40:46

So is the ultimate plan to go with the children? Do you have a place to go? Id he abusive? Apologies if I've missed previous threads.

You have a made the decision to leave: Remember - you don't need his permission or his blessing. You just tell him you are leaving. Then you leave.

ALaughAMinute Sun 14-Jun-15 11:41:02

Should you be the one leaving?

I would strongly advise that you get legal advice before you leave the marital home, especially as you have children.

Are you renting or do you own your own home?

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 11:51:09

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TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 11:51:57

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knowledgeispower Sun 14-Jun-15 12:12:28

In your opinion is it emotionally abusive?

RaisingMen Sun 14-Jun-15 12:19:04

How old are your children?

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 12:31:20

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pocketsaviour Sun 14-Jun-15 12:33:54

Is he the main care-giver?

Please be very sensitive to how you tell your DC what's happening. Depending on their age, maternal abandonment can be horribly traumatic.

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 14:35:29

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ImperialBlether Sun 14-Jun-15 14:40:13

Blimey, OP, this is a huge decision for you to make. I think you should see a solicitor tomorrow morning. You sound very depressed - have you seen a GP?

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 21:03:19

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TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 21:22:58

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TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 21:24:06

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Ionone Sun 14-Jun-15 22:19:15

How old are your children?

ActiviaYoghurt Sun 14-Jun-15 22:21:35

How old are your children and why are you leaving them? Surely they have done nothing wrong?

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Sun 14-Jun-15 23:11:50

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cleanmyhouse Sun 14-Jun-15 23:21:44

how old are your children and why are you leaving them

Fuck sakes! Because shes clearly reached the breaking point and has no other choice.

Good luck OP. It'll be OK.

cleanmyhouse Sun 14-Jun-15 23:22:15

Shit, meant that to be in bold not crossed out.

TheDrugsWorkABitTooWellThanks Mon 15-Jun-15 11:19:59

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