Married to DH for 20 years, (2DCs) mostly happily though we've had our ups and downs. DH is mercurial in temperament, or as he would describe it, 'Celtic'.
We have some spectacular rows but always make up and do love each other.
DH seems to be having a crisis ATM. He's been on ADs for over 6 months, we've both had health scares in the last year but were there for each other.
He lost his job, for the third time in February (happens a lot in IT) and has been out of work, on JSA since.
We had a love-in on my day off on Wednesday, he hated me on Thursday, loved me on Friday but today he's gone too far. We fell out at the check-out at Sainsbury's (he hates shopping). He wanted to unload the trolley, to be helpful,but grabbed my wrist and told me not to do. I told him not to treat me like that in public, he couldn't get over it, walking off and leaving me with the car, though I don't drive.
We stopped and rowed on the way home and once home he threw the shopping out of the car and drove off with the boot open.
When he returned he went up to the bedroom and packed a bag, telling DS that I'd made his life hell for 20 years. I'm torn between wanting out when he's like this and loving him when he's not.
He went back to bed and has been asleep for over 3 hours. The bedroom floor is covered with pills, I thought for a second that he'd OD'd but they're all his AD's and medication for his ED. He's obviously trying to send me a not so subtle message that I make him depressed and impotent.
Tomorrow he may be lovely.
How do I cope with the bad days? He's having such a hard time at the moment, I want to be there for him but don't want to tolerate such behaviour either.
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CressidaCrisis · 13/06/2015 17:35
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