I'm not one to post threads like this, but then this hasn't ever happened before.
To give background, there's me, DH, 3 DCs from 1-7. DH has recently been promoted and has a particularly stressful situation to manage in new position. He's only been in this position for two weeks and is becoming more and more stressed, which in turn is making him grumpy and miserable.
We are also struggling very much with DS2 bedtime. He's nearly 4, he will not sleep. He stays awake until 9.30/10pm and if we sit with him he doesn't sleep, if we don't he doesn't sleep and messes about, unravelling toilet roll, eating toothpaste, "reading" 100 books and so on. DH is getting very frustrated with this, as am I, and it's causing friction.
Last night I sat with DS from 7.30 bedtime until 9pm when I just couldn't do it anymore and came downstairs for a break. DH is then supposed to take over putting back to bed etc. He did this twice, the second time very angrily (but not nastily) telling DS that enough was enough and he must sleep. The third time he completely lost his cool, threw the books DS had been reading across the room and scared DS a lot. I went up immediately, made DH scarper and settled DS.
I am now absolutely fuming with DH that he behaved that way, and that he's letting work affect home. Now we're supposed to go out to a friends party this evening, everything is arranged, but I really do not want to go and be 'forced' into pretending nothing happened, everything is grand etc. DH won't force this, I will, because nobody wants an arguing couple at their birthday party.
So wwyd? Cancel party and stay home? Cancel party and go out somewhere else to have proper discussions of what happened, how to fix and move forward etc? Go to party anyway, despise every minute and end up with last night being swept under the carpet or, worse, alcohol making me say something stupid? I just don't know what's best.
N.B. talks not possible during the day as DH is working until 6. We're supposed to be leaving home for party at 7 so won't have time this evening either.
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Argument last night, party tonight.
ChocolateBreakfastBalls · 13/06/2015 09:14
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