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Breaking up - right thing to do but feel so sad.

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BettyTheHippo Sat 13-Jun-15 08:04:59

Just broken up. A two year relationship which had plenty of lows - ex was very sexually agressive, selfish, hard and I generally walked on egg shells. But I loved him, I loved having someone to talk to, to cuddle up with and fall asleep with. I could cope with all that came my way, and lowered my expectations because no one is perfect.
A tiny part of me knows that breaking up was inevitable, but the rest of me is just so sad and empty and lonely. The rest of my life stretches ahead of me and it's so bleak. DDs are at uni. I work and have friends but I tend to be a loner really, unless it's with DDs, who are my life
Don't know why I'm posting really, just wanted to tell someone.
Thanks for reading.

HolgerDanske Sat 13-Jun-15 08:10:11


rumred Sat 13-Jun-15 08:11:45

It's natural to grieve even a crap relationship. Just be kind to yourself and know that the sadness will pass. Distraction is always good . Hope you feel brighter soon

Hidsup Sat 13-Jun-15 08:17:24

Breaking up is never easy which is why you see so many people in miserable relationships.

This was me a year ago. I was really sad and dithered and dithered. Breaking up has forced me to reestablish a life without him which meant I've accepted loads of offers to do stuff that previously I wouldn't have. By offers I mean events on Facebook, sports activities that aren't something I'd have considered before. I am genuinely happy.

I also had a period of misery and struggling to get out of bed so don't feel bad if this bit of recovery strikes. Due to on going work stress on top of this I saw my GP for some anti depressants which I've never taken before but lifted me out of the fog and 6 months later came off them.

I know it was the right thing to do however difficult at the time

givemehopehelpmecope Sat 13-Jun-15 09:47:01

Betty i did the same this week & am facing first weekend on my own. I feel empty, sad & alone. BUT i too was walking on eggshells, anxious & dare i say scared around him towards the end. So i also feel relief that i don't have to face his black moods & general unkindness. Ut wasn't always like that- we had an great first year. But the mask slipped. We will be fine. No man is better than the wrong man xxx

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