This might be quite 'outing' as I'm going to give as much information as not to dripfeed etc. This is the same friend that I've spoken about before (she had been upset with me because I didn't reply to her text fast enough after 2 days).
Last month we went on a long planned trip with our children. She offered to drive me and my DD rather than me getting the train (I don't drive) and I offered to pay her half the petrol money as I think this is the thing to do etc. It was quite a long drive so I know the petrol would be expensive. She turned down my offer, even after I insisted and then offered to buy her dinner or something as a thank you instead.
Anyway, a few days later she comes back to me and says, actually do I mind contributing towards the petrol as she could really do with the money. I say, yes of course. She asked for £10.
We meet up for a day trip, seemed to be having a nice time etc. TBH the money had slipped my mind as we wondered round the shops and hadn't been mentioned at all. All of a sudden she turns round to me, clearly quite pissed off and snaps at me 'Do you not want to pay it, CharlieChaplinsHat? I really don't like having to ask'. I was quite taken aback because the tone was quite harsh and the money had not been mentioned up until that point and I had every intention of giving it to her! I said that it had slipped my mind up until then. She didn't seem to want to give me the benefit of the doubt and kept on going on about how I clearly didn't want to give her the money, and did I think she was out of order for asking? She was really pissy and just stomped off in a huff.
That was about 3 weeks ago, and I sent her a few messages asking if she was alright generally etc, didn't get a reply so a few days ago asked after her again and asked if she was upset about the money and that I hope she wasn't. I told her I felt like she thought I was deliberately not wanting to pay her and that hurt my feelings and that I valued her friendship and hoped we wouldn't fall out. She didn't get back to me again so I sent her a message saying well at least can you let me know that you are alright as I was starting to get worried something had happened. She then got back to me saying that she is alright and yes she is annoyed about the money and that she hasn't got back to me yet because she is busy. Apparently she is going to send me an email telling me why she is upset
I just think that this is so petty and childish. If it was the other way round and someone owed me money I would raise the issue along the lines of 'Oh would you mind giving me that money for the petrol' (you know, something polite etc). I can't get my head round her not replying to my messages. I looks like she has been sulking over something very minor and appeared quite happy to throw away our friendship. I just don't know if I can be arsed with this type of thing.
Sorry this is so long and petty. What do others make of this? Is she being unreasonable or am I?
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CharlieChaplinsHat · 12/06/2015 20:02
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