So I've name changed for this so I can be honest and even hide away from the truth if I need to ;)
Here is my list, what would you do?
Negative:
He has hit me
He has raped me
We rarely have sex
He spoilt our holiday
He can't contribute towards the house financially
He doesn't seem very interested in getting married and progressing the relationship
He says he wants kids, but doesn't speak about how we might get there
He is rough with me when we have sex
He misunderstands my sexual wants
Sex is rarely exciting
He is a terrible drunk
Positive:
He is usually kind (when sober)
He is usually caring (when sober)
He is really intelligent
He has a lovely face
He puts me first (when sober)
He is financially generous
He would be distraught if we spilt up
He loves me (when sober)
He leans on me
We have fun and a laugh (when sober)
He is my best friend
Should I just give up drinking and expect he does the same? FWIW I enjoy a drink and don't get lairy with anyone. If I make this relationship work I will need to be tee total so that he can be as well. What would you do?
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I made a good/bad list. Help me decide
WhatToDoNow001 · 12/06/2015 04:28
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