Why do some of them become nasty and hurt you more when you listen to your gut and reject them? I don't think someone will reject a man in purpose. Usually I say no, based on how they treat me and how they make me feel...
Am I wrong to have a feeling that something doesn't add up despite the fact that you care for them greatly? Despite the feeling of very strong desire but still choosing to walk away.
Why do they have to have the last word, make you feel miserable and laugh at you when you so "no". Why don't they try to analyse their own actions and make some amendments or feel responsible?
It's usually men, rather than women, who behave like this. Men like this consider themselves superior to women and fully entitled to command a woman's attention, obedience and open legs. A woman who won't allow them access to her Sacred Vagina is a Bad woman who is rebelling against the laws of gods and nature; she doesn't Know Her Place. This is why they are nasty. They would be just as nasty if you did become involved with them, except probably in slightly different ways. I suggest any particularly grim ones get treated to 'Gosh, you must really have issues with the size of your willy' if the interaction is online: saying so face to face is possibly dangerous even though it is fun.
There was a guy I met only once. It was very easy with him. But I didn't feel the spark. After a date I sent him an email saying it's not going to work... He replied: "I thought so too" He wasn't nasty nor he was rude...
When I was in my late teens I had an angry possibly half pissed girl turn up outside my mate's front door in the morning shouting abuse and demanding to know where I was after I had turned her advances down in a club the previous night.
It's not always men, but there is a small subset of entitled man children who are particularly bad at this. They believe that merely by existing they are owed a hot girl. Movies reinforce this trope - the girl is usually the prize at the end for the hero, even if he's a bit of a twat. You also see the stalking theme in films (Persue her no matter what! She'll cave in the end!) When men like this get rejected, it goes to their very core and they lash out. It's a disordered thought process: I deserve a hot chick. No, I don't need to work on my personality/general respect for women and humanity. What? She says no? --> all women are bitches.
Men who react violently to rejection are not seeing women as brings with autonomy. They see them as objects they are entitled to possess.
So well done, op. Your arsehole radar is working beautifully
I had lesbian comment as well. From coworker who tried to look into my eyes, created some drama just to prove that I fancy him. When he saw my ignorance, without any words like nothing happened He started to call me lesbian... No comment-full ignorance in that as well. Now he calls me by my full name!
I agree with man child comment otherwise normal grown up man won't act the way they do, just to prove "if not you someone else will do"