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i said goodbye to my nana today

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kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 21:55:00

she was admitted to hospital with a chest infection it turned into pneumonia the hospital tried their best but it would not respond to drip antibiotics and now they have sedated her. i have cried till theres nothing left in me she was an amazing woman who pretty much brought me up as my own parents were pretty useless she is 97 im so grateful i had her for so long but i wanted longer now i sit and wait for a phone call i dont know why im posting i think i just didnt want to sit here and wait alone i guess

Tequilashotfor1 Wed 10-Jun-15 21:57:23

Oh you poor thing flowers

This is my worst nightmare as my nan brought me up too.

So sorry for you kids .

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:00:25

thank you i owe everything to her i told her today she made me who i am and i love her so much she is such is strong stubborn fiesty and funny taught me so much.

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:18:57

its going to be so hard in work tomorrow i do not know how i am going to cope

Tequilashotfor1 Wed 10-Jun-15 22:33:08

Have you got any other family to lean on?

I suppose you just get up and take one hour at a time. Can you book the day off?

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:40:21

i have dp he has been a total saint today rushed me to the hospital i was in bits no way i could drive she is miles away from here too but he has a 5.30 am start tomorrow i really cant lean on him any more today as for work its a new job dont really want to push my luck

ChopinLiszt Wed 10-Jun-15 22:42:54

You poor thing. My Nana died ten years ago but it feels like last week. She was only 72 sad

Sending lots of hugs. And I really think you should take the day off tomorrow

Mopmay Wed 10-Jun-15 22:49:59

The call may come tonight or tomorrow. I have been there with my mum. Take the day off and be with her. Hold her hand and tell her how you feel

Tequilashotfor1 Wed 10-Jun-15 22:50:52

Of course you can lean on him. It's times like this you do lean on them.

At least she is relaxed and not in pain, small mercies sad

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:52:30

im a puffy eyed mess at the moment (at 50 that is not a good look) my nan was such a smart lady too seeing her like that no make up hair not done was such a shock she would not even put the bin out without make up on she was really together for her age one of the things i admired about her

kilmuir Wed 10-Jun-15 22:52:58

treasure all those wonderful memories you have made together

Noneedtoworryatall Wed 10-Jun-15 22:53:22

I'm sorry op, you poor thing. It would have meant so so much to your nana to hear that you love her flowers

Keep posting and you will receive great support and company x

Iloveonionchutney Wed 10-Jun-15 22:53:26

I'm so sorry, I'm going through similar now we were called to my nan in her care home last night as the doctor had seen her and said it could be between hours and days, she's still here but don't know how long for so like you am just waiting for a phone call sadflowers

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:54:25

yes i thanked the nurses for making her comfortable shes sleeping peacefully at the moment im glad shes not suffering

Noneedtoworryatall Wed 10-Jun-15 22:55:23

Op, she just wasn't herself. My dad passed away 11 years ago and it really helps me when I'm feeling great sadness, to think of a funny thing he did or said.

Your nana sounds lovely.

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:56:23

oh iloveonionchutney its so hard isnt it part of me does not want here to suffer but the selfish part of me wants her to stay im torn in two

Noneedtoworryatall Wed 10-Jun-15 22:56:30

Ilove-I'm wishing you and your nan the very best.

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 23:03:43

noneed it did feel like she was already gone iyswim even though she was just sedated it just didnt feel like it was her anymore bloody broke my heart to see her like that cant get it out of my head

CranstontheCorgi Wed 10-Jun-15 23:05:40

So sorry OP. flowers

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 23:09:51

thank you for all the kind words ladies its a comfort and i dont feel so alone right now

Mopmay Wed 10-Jun-15 23:10:08

I remember it all too well. Sedated. Here but gone.

Noneedtoworryatall Wed 10-Jun-15 23:13:37

Just awful kidsndogs. Do you have a picture of her? Perhaps if you could look at her smiling and enjoying herself it would help to distract you.

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 23:21:35

i will dig some photos out in the morning but this evening im having a few drinks to soften the edges to be honest she would have probably have advised it she could bless her

Noneedtoworryatall Wed 10-Jun-15 23:23:12

Nothing wrong with that wink

kidsndogs Wed 10-Jun-15 23:25:13

it just all happened so quickly a few months ago she was pretty much independent (warden flat ) then a home and then this all in a few months just cant take it in

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