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Feeling like a teenager but over 40!

(9 Posts)
Snowfire Wed 10-Jun-15 18:32:43

I'm a 40 year old single parent to 14yo dd. I have a good job, own house & car and have been on my own (quite happily) for over 5 years. I've never been too good at relationships and have been quite content focussing on dd and my friends so haven't been looking for a relationship.
About 6 weeks ago, a contractor started working in our department. He's very friendly/chatty/fun and also rather good looking/nice physique. Always nice to have a little distraction but I'm finding myself thinking about him rather a lot blush
He's told me he's single, has been moving around rather a lot with work but planning on settling in this area. He's never had children but hasn't ruled out parenthood, he has a nephew whom he dotes on (he volunteered all of this). Other people at work have been saying things like 'oh he's such a nice guy, don't you think Snow?' And last weekend we went out for one of our colleagues birthdays and she (after a few cocktails) was saying I should go and chat him up (which of course made me avoid even having eye contact with him!)
I haven't told anyone how I'm feeling but just needed to share.

Zillie77 Wed 10-Jun-15 18:35:30

Go for it! Ask him out??

Lipgloss74 Wed 10-Jun-15 18:42:24

Ask him out- keep us posted! X

Lovingfreedom Wed 10-Jun-15 18:42:41

I would make sure that on the next team drinks you sit next to him for at least part of the eve. Take it from there.

Newtobecomingamum Wed 10-Jun-15 18:43:01

Life's too short! Go for it!! smile

BeenWondering Wed 10-Jun-15 18:46:03

Go for it. Get to know him more as long as there's no harm to your job or professional standing then go for it. And tell us how it went

Smorgasboard Wed 10-Jun-15 18:50:04

The tricky thing I've noticed in late 30's/ 40's single men seems to be the amount who have yet to have children despite wanting them. Time is on their side I suppose, but it's also a reason why similar aged women who have either done with that or never been a plan, are not compatible with their plans. Annoyingly, leaves a smaller pool of men of a similar age as lots are looking for younger child-bearers still.
This may not be relevant to you at this stage, I digress, just saying.
You are a little teenagerish lol. Can't do eye contact! Shyness gets you nowhere, so if you want to risk some fun ( it's about time). No option but to confront fears. Repeat to self "he's just a person like anyone else, I will pretend he's a mate that I don't fancy and be my natural self". Good luck!

flatbellyfella Wed 10-Jun-15 22:03:50

Go for it, it will make his day too.

goodcompany2 Wed 10-Jun-15 23:11:22

Enjoy the butterflies! Having your dd growing up gives you the increasing freedom, time and energy to bring out your inner teenager. Be fearless and bold. Grab life by the short and curlys.

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