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My boyfriend likes it up the bum

(80 Posts)
milkybar123 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:45:26

Newbie here so be gentle smile

I've been with my boyfriend for just short of 2 years now and we have recently become engaged. He is 33 and I'm 28. I've always been aware of his past (cheated on every girlfriend, slept around etc) but so far so good between us both.

Anyway, we were both at a mutual friends birthday party the other night when the drinking game 'I have never' cropped up. Always a risky game to play with a partner but I went along with it as.

The question "I have never had it up the bum" came up, and most people kept their fingers up apart from him. He then told us that an ex girlfriend would completely dominate him anally and I've felt sick thinking about it ever since. Is this normal? Has anyone elses significant other expressed an interested in being anally dominated by another woman?

ShonaOCasey Tue 09-Jun-15 18:46:30

not another one!

Mypubesarestraight Tue 09-Jun-15 18:46:54

Yeah but I use my foot. Ankle deep.

Mangolimes Tue 09-Jun-15 18:47:36


Finola1step Tue 09-Jun-15 18:47:46

Here we go...

whohasnickedmyvodka Tue 09-Jun-15 18:48:11

Oh dear grabs popcorn

Bogeyface Tue 09-Jun-15 18:48:14

Ok so benefit of the doubt......

Forget his bum fetish, you need to worry that you are settling down with a man who you know is a liar and a cheat. I suggest you consider why you think you are worth so little.

EmpressOfJurisfiction Tue 09-Jun-15 18:49:17

Take him to Center Parcs. Or up the Oxo Tower.

HellBoundNothingFound Tue 09-Jun-15 18:49:33

Good band name that...ANAL DOMINATION

knackered69 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:50:40


EmpressOfJurisfiction Tue 09-Jun-15 18:51:44

Not sure he ever expressed an opinion on tbe matter, knackered.

angryangryyoungwoman Tue 09-Jun-15 18:57:33

Yes, but only on Thursdays, is that normal?

BurntToast89 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:58:30

No as I'm sure he would run a mile or more if I suggest that. I might surprise him hahaha wink

Lucy90 Tue 09-Jun-15 19:01:29

Howling already and the thread has only just started!

BolshierAyraStark Tue 09-Jun-15 19:02:04

Okaaaaaaay, I doubt very much that someone who 'likes it up the bum' would fail to mention it at some point over the course of a 2 year relationship...

glitteryflange Tue 09-Jun-15 19:04:26

Hello troll!


Gives benefit of the doubt...

I used to see someone who liked this. Note the past tense.

PickleSarnie Tue 09-Jun-15 19:07:49

Cucumbers are on special at Ocado at the moment. Buy a cucumber, get the tomatoes free. So, if you end up not liking it, at least you get a free salad out of it.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Tue 09-Jun-15 19:11:00

You can't access the sex topic then?

Spotifymuse Tue 09-Jun-15 19:11:32

Don't buy a cucumber with a yellow reduced sticker though. It'll be a big mushy disapointment sad

BernardlookImaprostituterobotf Tue 09-Jun-15 19:11:37

We have a sex topic for exactly this reason.

TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 09-Jun-15 19:12:37


undoubtedly Tue 09-Jun-15 19:13:25

Yes, it's completely normal but only on a Friday or at Centre Parks.

If you're at Centre Parks on a Friday, you won't see anyone who isn't having it up the bum hmm

ouryve Tue 09-Jun-15 19:14:24

Oh dear grabs popcorn

Now that would be an uncomfortable pearl necklace.

SmillasSenseOfSnow Tue 09-Jun-15 19:14:48

You used the phrase 'anally dominated' and genuinely didn't think we'd catch on that this was bullshit? hmm

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