Hook up sites

[NoMoreMrRight]

So, been single for three years following my divorce. A very high sex drive, and I've been online dating (POF, Match etc) for about two years. Completely fed up of the bad manners, fickleness even when trying to find a FB.... I read earlier another thread about someone looking for NSA sex and some posters recommended going down the hook up site route as it apparently there's a lot less messing around etc..

I have tried POF etc in the past searching for 'only sex/something casual' profiles but although I got a FB for a couple of months out of it, it was still the same BS as when trying to find a relationship.

So, any recs for hook up/casual sex sites? Ideally one where I can just post some headless full body length pictures and then privately message the ones showing my face to any potentials (I live in a small village and I rather be discrete about all this).

Thanks in advance

[Lipgloss74]

Curious to see what the suggestions are x

[goddessofsmallthings]

"Headless full body length" pix? Are you related to Duncan Sandys?

[NoMoreMrRight]

Hahaha!! Goddess

[MadamDumblebore]

Fabswingers

[NoMoreMrRight]

I'm not a swinger though .... tricky already as it is to find just the one man to have sex with!

[goodcompany2]

Fabswingers.

[MadamDumblebore]

There are swingers on there... along with a plethora of single men looking for NSA sex.

[goddessofsmallthings]

My suggestion would be to keep it brief, Lipgloss.

A lonely hearts ad on the lines of 'Fat/curvaceous/skinny female seeks fuck. No time wasters' may produce the desired sacks of mail result.

I'm considering placing an ad for 'Octogenarian millionaire wanted for companionship - teminal illness no problem'.

[NoMoreMrRight]

Ha! Just joined Fabswingers literally 5 mins ago, no photos yet and already have 25 messages . I'm surprised at how graphic the profiles are .... It's going to be an interesting evening once DC are in bed .

Any advice on how to navigate the site? I want NSA sex but the few I have looked at seem to be quite sordid... I just want a normal guy to have sex with!

[Lipgloss74]

Oh keep me posted!! X

[goodcompany2]

Try a swingers' club. More social = more safe. Also can see the guys with no pressure to play and arrange future 'dates' if they tick your boxes.

[goodcompany2]

Also free for single ladies (usually)

[NoMoreMrRight]

Hmm... not sure I'm brave enough to make it to a swingers club!

[Mum4Fergus]

I've been, erm, successsful with POF The Naughty Pond...

[goodcompany2]

They're not all the same in terms of ambience but are safe places frequented by normal people with a bit of a 'quirk'. No pressure to participate at all and very sympathetic and welcoming to newbies. PM me with your location if you like.

[BitOutOfPractice]

My guess would be that 95% of the men on these NSA sites are married / in a LTR

I know my exDP was

Just so as you know. That would certainly bother me

[NoMoreMrRight]

Bit I'm aware of that, but after a couple of years online dating I'm fairly competent at spotting them... For starters I'm planning on only responding to those with public pics showing their faces as a filter .....

[goodcompany2]

Not 'my friend's' experience. Has met genuinely single guys (and couples ) who just like the scene. Some looking for nsa fun and some looking for FB's/FWB and some looking for a relationship with someone similar. If they can accommodate then chances they are single. There are obviously cheats out there too but same as POF and local pubs/clubs. Swinging scene places high value on honesty and openness.

[MadamDumblebore]

Not 'my friends' experience either.

[MadamDumblebore]

Although there are a lot of them on there, mostly very open about being married

[goodcompany2]

lol. 'my friend' agrees wholeheartedly

[NoMoreMrRight]

I agree, quite a few already saying upfront that they're married.

So, if someone's asking for a face pic, if I add it to my private gallery only my 'friends' will be able to see it right? Or is there another way of sending private pics?

Also, those men that have 'cannot accommodate'... does it likely man married as not able to take you back to his?

[NoMoreMrRight]

*mean

[GhettoFabulous]

As a veteran of these sites, I'd keep your profile and pics as low key as possible. Lots of fanny shots or waxing lyrical about how horny you are etc just encourages the more misogynistic types. And use the filters the site gives you ruthlessly, you'll be inundated otherwise.

[goodcompany2]

can mean married/house share/living with parents - anything really (even 'my house is a state, don't feel like it's nice enough')

Yes you are right.
You can also attach a face pic to your message which disappears after they open it.
alternatively send by text from a second 'fab' phone - no link to site then should they try and 'out' you

Be selective - wouldn't give out face pics too early. Hard to take back. Post a shot with sunglasses on/hair over face/brim of hat covering part of face.

You can also look at 'socials' on events/meets which mean a strictly vanilla lunch/dinner for swingers (including singles). It's chance to meet others and meet possible people for future socials/play.

Most of all keep yourself safe, same as any date and be selective! You are the illusive single female couples and singles want to meet, you call the shots, you make whatever rules you feel you need to be comfortable, you never do or show anything you don't want to. You control everything, you are not there to keep someone else happy. Use the block button the moment red flags wave.