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NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 17:41:39

So, been single for three years following my divorce. A very high sex drive, and I've been online dating (POF, Match etc) for about two years. Completely fed up of the bad manners, fickleness even when trying to find a FB.... I read earlier another thread about someone looking for NSA sex and some posters recommended going down the hook up site route as it apparently there's a lot less messing around etc..

I have tried POF etc in the past searching for 'only sex/something casual' profiles but although I got a FB for a couple of months out of it, it was still the same BS as when trying to find a relationship.

So, any recs for hook up/casual sex sites? Ideally one where I can just post some headless full body length pictures and then privately message the ones showing my face to any potentials (I live in a small village and I rather be discrete about all this).

Thanks in advance

Lipgloss74 Tue 09-Jun-15 17:47:51

Curious to see what the suggestions are x

goddessofsmallthings Tue 09-Jun-15 17:51:12

"Headless full body length" pix? Are you related to Duncan Sandys? wink

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 17:52:21

Hahaha!! Goddess

MadamDumblebore Tue 09-Jun-15 17:53:44

Fabswingers

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 17:54:46

I'm not a swinger though .... tricky already as it is to find just the one man to have sex with! wink

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 17:55:29

Fabswingers.

MadamDumblebore Tue 09-Jun-15 17:58:35

There are swingers on there... along with a plethora of single men looking for NSA sex.

goddessofsmallthings Tue 09-Jun-15 18:07:15

My suggestion would be to keep it brief, Lipgloss.

A lonely hearts ad on the lines of 'Fat/curvaceous/skinny female seeks fuck. No time wasters' may produce the desired sacks of mail result.

I'm considering placing an ad for 'Octogenarian millionaire wanted for companionship - teminal illness no problem'.

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 18:19:21

Ha! Just joined Fabswingers literally 5 mins ago, no photos yet and already have 25 messages shock. I'm surprised at how graphic the profiles are .... It's going to be an interesting evening once DC are in bed wink.

Any advice on how to navigate the site? I want NSA sex but the few I have looked at seem to be quite sordid... I just want a normal guy to have sex with!

Lipgloss74 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:22:32

Oh keep me posted!! X

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:25:30

Try a swingers' club. More social = more safe. Also can see the guys with no pressure to play and arrange future 'dates' if they tick your boxes.

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:25:56

Also free for single ladies (usually)

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 18:31:51

Hmm... not sure I'm brave enough to make it to a swingers club!

Mum4Fergus Tue 09-Jun-15 18:35:41

I've been, erm, successsfulgrin with POF The Naughty Pond...

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 18:36:18

They're not all the same in terms of ambience but are safe places frequented by normal people with a bit of a 'quirk'. No pressure to participate at all and very sympathetic and welcoming to newbies. PM me with your location if you like.

BitOutOfPractice Tue 09-Jun-15 18:42:08

My guess would be that 95% of the men on these NSA sites are married / in a LTR

I know my exDP was confused

Just so as you know. That would certainly bother me

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 18:59:50

Bit I'm aware of that, but after a couple of years online dating I'm fairly competent at spotting them... For starters I'm planning on only responding to those with public pics showing their faces as a filter .....

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 19:07:32

Not 'my friend's' experience. Has met genuinely single guys (and couples ) who just like the scene. Some looking for nsa fun and some looking for FB's/FWB and some looking for a relationship with someone similar. If they can accommodate then chances they are single. There are obviously cheats out there too but same as POF and local pubs/clubs. Swinging scene places high value on honesty and openness.

MadamDumblebore Tue 09-Jun-15 19:29:25

Not 'my friends' experience either.

MadamDumblebore Tue 09-Jun-15 19:30:51

Although there are a lot of them on there, mostly very open about being married hmm

goodcompany2 Tue 09-Jun-15 19:40:12

lol. 'my friend' agrees wholeheartedly

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 19:44:10

I agree, quite a few already saying upfront that they're married.

So, if someone's asking for a face pic, if I add it to my private gallery only my 'friends' will be able to see it right? Or is there another way of sending private pics?

Also, those men that have 'cannot accommodate'... does it likely man married as not able to take you back to his?

NoMoreMrRight Tue 09-Jun-15 19:45:09

*mean

GhettoFabulous Tue 09-Jun-15 20:18:10

As a veteran of these sites, I'd keep your profile and pics as low key as possible. Lots of fanny shots or waxing lyrical about how horny you are etc just encourages the more misogynistic types. And use the filters the site gives you ruthlessly, you'll be inundated otherwise.

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