DP has just bare faced lied to me with out a blink of an eye. It was something trivial. But I found out a couple of mins later it wasn't true.
I hate lying and in the past he has form for it. I told him if I ever caught him out in a lie again I'd leave.
A few years a go we went through a rough patch and I asked him to leave so we could have breathing space. The next day a woman I knew to be an ex of a friend suddenly appeared on his news feed on facebook she replied to somthing he had posted. But it was kind of like they had discussed it previously . I didn't even know they were friends.
The next day when he called in I called his bluff and said 'well that didn't take long did it? Your a fast mover' he played the 'what are you talking about card so I asked to see his phone and he wouldn't show me. The was two days after he left.
We sorted it out a week later after him assuring me it was just work talk,(they don't work together but she was looking for work) she'd had a bad time with her ex ... Plus the original reason we wasn't getting on
I asked to see the messages if it was so harmless (which I had resisted doing ) and he had deleted all the messages. So I kicked him out then. He came back a few hours later begging and panicking saying he thought I would kick off that ehy he deleted them and it was stupid.
Dd was very small then so I let it go. He has never give me any other reason to believe he could/was being unfaithful
I had very little trust in him though through the previous 'white lies' and now after today I have non.
I told him I don't want to be with a liar and was fuming because of the past issues. I threw tonight dinner in the bin as I'm not cooking for him and his DF. (Over reaction I know)
He has just come up stairs and aplogised for making me feel like this and for lying. I told him he is just sorry he got caught.
Am I over reacting? The lie was a 'white' lie but it shows he can lie to beautifully to my face. I don't even know him
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Just really shouted at DP and could do with some perspective
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Cupofteaandavapourcig1 · 07/06/2015 17:08
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