Back story, found out my husband was having an affair with a work colleague in february, have the evidence, chats, emails, photos even video clips.... nasty, despite me willing to try again he refuses so i have filed for divorce naming her as co-respondent. she text me last week to ask if we are now even and i am so fucking angry .... Even !!!, she has taken my life and destroyed it, my son is in bits and she asked if we are even , what do you think ??? i need to understand why 3 months after finding out I am so angry i want to destroy her.
I didn't knwi you could name the OW as co-respondent in divorce proceedings. ATTAGIRL!!! she's clearly fuming. Don't bother replying and I guess she could disclose your text in evidence at trial that you are vexatious so from a legal perspective, definitely don't reply.
You ask "what would you think," and in truth if I was in your exact postion, I would probably feel all the rage and hurt that you are feeling.
However, with the benefit of objective detachment since I am not you, I can say that there is nothing gained from responding to her, or giving her words any of your headspace or energy.
What can you do to distract yourself? I think physical activity to work out the anger could be good right now. Is there anything that needs to be dug, beaten, broken, or shredded in your garden or house?
On these threads you always get people coming along telling you yabu for being angry at the ow.
Why won't some people just accept that being angry at the other woman in no ways makes you less angry at your partner. You can be angry at your partner and hold him/her 100% responsible for their behavior and choices and still be angry at the other person involved in your hurt seperately.
I wouldn't give the bitch the steam off your piss op. Don't hold grudges. Just remember facts.
I'm glad she's upset enough by it to contact you... Must have really upset her