My mil lives a 45 mins drive away, but works in the town i live in. She has been taking a new route to work due to roadworks, and has told us that she literally drives past our door on the way too and from work. I work 3 days per week, my ds goes to nursery.
Mil only sees ds if I bring him to her. I take him to her work once a week on one of my non working days and meet her for lunch. It takes me 30 mins each way to get into the town centre where she works.
She lives with her new husband, her DD and her two kids. We are currently nc with our sil (her daughter) at her behest. She decided we 'never did anything for her' and cut us off. Therefore I don't feel happy taking ds to visit her in her home. They also have a dog which has attacked other animals before which concerns me a great deal.
So, I have suggested to dmil that I see her fornightly for lunch, because one of my non working days kinda works around taking ds to see her (he is v little, so its a case of morning nap, drive and see her, have lunch, drive back and then its nap time again!) But said if she would like to see ds she is always very welcome to pop by for a coffee before/after work.
I have a feeling she will go apeshit, but my thinking is this:- if she literally drives past our house surely thats more convenient than putting a baby in a car for an hour, just to spend pne hour together? I also have to pay for extra petrol/parking. If she comes here she can also see DH, her son!
Although I have given reasons above as to why we havent been to hers much, I now note that we are never invited there anyway. Hmmm. I think I am being reasonable but I suspect she will disagree. Am I doing the right thing? At the mo it kisy feels very onesided and I want to spend more time taking ds on playdates/doing activities rsther than just sitting in a cafe.
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Dontunderstand01 · 07/06/2015 16:26
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