Ok, So I've posted on here a few times before so sorry if you're tired of reading my posts but just find it so helpful to air things and hear what people have to say
I feel like a kid being needy and clingy and moaning about things that may or may not bother other people. The problem is the little things really do hurt and upset me and I don't know how to deal with it. I don't think it's this man in particular. Although I am actually quite confident and outgoing, as soon as I get close to someone, I get very paranoid, insecure in the relationship and needy - and I'm ruining things for myself
I was in tears a moment ago - because my DP is playing on the playstation and not picking up my call or replying to my text
We don't live together and we're going away together on Monday for 10 days so I have spent tonight at home to get things sorted before we go away. We have discovered a great game on the playstation that I said instead of seeing each other tonight, we could play online together at about 10.30pm when I've finished what I need to do. He said yes
So, 10.30pm, I can see from him online status on playstation that he's playing the game, so I text him and ask if he still wants to play together. No reply. Half an hour later I called him. Didn't answer, or call back. He's still playing it now
I know the whole thing sounds ridiculous and childish, but I'm so upset!! Not that he's playing it, but that we were supposed to play it together and he's completely ignoring me!
I always feel like I'm the one initiating conversation when we're not together. He just seems to be perfectly happy just being completely separate from me during the week and then together with me at the weekends, whereas I want to feel part of his life all the time. Not that I don't do things without him because I do..
How can I get his attention about this and not seem like I'm nagging or being clingy? I feel like as soon as I say something that's exactly what i would be doing and having been on the other end of this before, I know that it would put me off even more!
More imminently, should I send him a text message now and just say 'I take that as a no then! Goodnight' - or just ignore him back.
I need to find a way to deal with the whole thing in general, but am so upset and hurt that he's just ignoring me tonight
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Am I completely over the top, irrational, demanding and needy?
excitedbutscared · 06/06/2015 23:58
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