DH'S family are basically a good bunch who mean well. They are from a different country/culture. We are moving back to their nation next week and I just got .a call from SIL (who hardly ever calls me although she speaks to DH a few times a week). After a cursory "how are you?" she told me when we move back she and FIL want me to fly my three kids to stay with them for a week. I said "that is never gonna happen" and then she quickly said "oh well you can come too of course" gee, thanks. She then went on to say she and her dad want to come and see us - she basically was telling rather than asking. We are just about to make a huge move and I want to focus on making our new house a home and enjoy the time with the kids.
I think I am furious because it always feels like they operate from what they want and never ask if it is something I, DH or the kids want. It also reminds me of when FIL and wife decided to come and stay at our new house two weeks after we moved in when everything was still in boxes.
I am very happy for our kids to have a good and loving relationship with their extended family but I feel like I am treated as an afterthought.
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Can I please talk about my ILs? Feeling angry.
heylilbunny · 05/06/2015 21:26
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