Last night I went to...

[MissSmila]

... a seminar on domestic abuse, designed for people who will probably come across women struggling with abusive relationships in their voluntary roles but who haven't had any formal training. So it was necessarily introductory and will be followed by more training.

However, as I listened, I realised that, thanks to Mumsnetters, I had come across all the concepts in the presentation before. I knew the myths and why they were wrong, I knew how many abused women find it so hard to leave, I had a pretty good idea what to say and what not to say. There is an enormous amount for me still to learn, I know, but it's a start.

All those Mumsnetters who have given wise advice, and challenged dodgy and dangerous ideas on this board over the years have taught me so much.

More importantly all those Mumsnetters who have bravely shared their stories and struggles have shown me just a very little of how it must feel to be abused by those who are meant to love and care for you.

Most importantly of all, your knowledge and experience have helped me support someone in leaving their abusive partner and dealing with the aftermath. Life is hard, and there is a long way to go, but I think she knows she has done the right thing for her and her children.

Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you.

[nicenewdusters]

Fab post. Mumsnet has been a revelation to me in so many ways. If I got paid commission for every person I recommend it to I could retire tomorrow!

[MissSmila]

I keep recommending it too, nicenewdusters, but no one ever gets back to me to say it's great. Maybe they are on here but don't want to out themselves...

I have learned so much from Mumsnet, but I think the relationships stuff has been most important.

[Atenco]

Well said, MissSmila. How true. A friend of mine was in an emotionally abusive relationship and when she left her husband her family could not understand what the problem had been, because they had no concept of this form of domestic violence. It was a new concept to me too at the time. Mumsnet is a great site. I live in Mexico and would love to see a similar Spanish-language site here as it is so educational and empowering.

[MissSmila]

Set one up, Atenco!