So moving to a new country the only people I know are my bf’s friends. There is one girl (when I say girl, she’s late 30s) who I’ve been hanging out with a lot. However she constantly makes inappropriate comments.
She is single and has mentioned dating a few times but every time she does she brings up about my bf dating in the past. The other day was the worst. She was talking about how the city has a bigger ratio of single girls, than single men. She then started talking about my bf dating in the past. She said how he would find it easy to get loads of girls to go on dates and that he “could have had a different date every night of the week.” She made him sound like a serial dater – thankfully I know he isn’t.
It doesn’t annoy me that my bf dated in the past. We both know details of past relationships. However, I just find it so awkward when she speaks about it. It is like she has no filter and forgets who she is talking to. What does she really expect me to say in that situation? I would never say that to someone’s gf/bf. Obv it would be different if I was asking about him dating before but I am not. I know she doesn’t do it in a malicious manner – I think she just doesn’t think before she speaks.
I spoke to my bf about it (what she said, not about him dating obv) and he was quite confused about why she was saying that stuff. He didn’t need to justify dating to me. I told him that I am glad we are in a long term relationship because if we had only been together a few months what the friend said would have put me off but I know he is such a great guy. I should add that he was in an 8 year relationship prior to us and after they broke up he did date for a bit which is completely normal...
Also she’s made a lot of weird comments aside from that. There’s an age gap between my bf & I and she told me that her reaction to him when she found out my age was: “what the hell are you thinking?!” I told my bf this and he said that wasn’t true. She also told me she had met his ex gf when she hasn’t. And she made comments like “if anything were to happen between D and I, it would have years ago.” Who the hell says that. My bf and her never had anything going on so it’s absolutely not appropriate. I have actually come to the conclusion that she fancies my bf.
I don't want people to get the wrong impression of my SO because of her. He wouldn’t be paying $6,000+ for my immigration if he was a douche. I just don’t know how to handle her bizarre behaviour.
My SO offered to tell the friend to stop bringing up past dating but I don’t want to cause any tension and want to handle it myself. Anyone have any tips?
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kem92 · 01/06/2015 18:31
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