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I've been single for several years now (with the odd fling) but I've finally met a new fella. He's charming and considerate and I really enjoy spending time with him. But there's one slight problem - we've never had piv sex.
He's very physical and loves to be in contact with me. He's absolutely got me sussed in bed and I'm certainly never left wanting. Except I am - I would really like to have piv sex with him and/or for him to climax.
He never seems to display physical arousal but I've also noticed another potential problem. I know he used to be much bigger than he is now - and he's no skinny Minnie now. He's lost 8 stone. But this seems to have left him with a lot of excess skin which is, in effect, swamping his penis.
I don't know what to do. Any helpful suggestions, oh wise nest of vipers? 
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BorisStoleMyWig · 29/05/2015 22:22
When I asked him, purple, he just said he liked what I was doing, but never gave me any information on how to really get him going 
claw I'm pretty sure he's not. He's had an easily traceable career for nearly thirty years and used to play competitive rugby. Nothing's impossible but I think it fairly unlikely 
We've been together a few months now. Since the new year. It took a few weeks even to get to semi naked stage as I think claw is right - he does seem to be very body conscious. I'm really not at all - I'm a comfortable size 16 but I'll strip in front of pretty much anyone He, on the other hand, is much more comfortable in the dark etc.
I think it's such a shame as he's a lovely guy. And let's face it - losing 8 stone is a massive achievement. It was all unaided too - no bariatric surgery.
I'm going to have to talk to him aren't I? I certainly don't want this to become a 'you must do something about this or I walk' convo as he is so keen to make sure I'm happy and satisfied sexually and he certainly makes me happy in other ways. I suppose I want to ensure that he's as happy as I am. I would hate for him to feel like he's not happy but can't talk to me about it.
Not that I've ever witnessed laugh. I think maybe it's that combined with the massive body under confidence. I should be staying over at his again next week so I think it's time for a frank chat. I just need to get over to him that I'm not necessarily unhappy or dissatisfied (desiring piv notwithstanding). We'll have to see how it goes
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