Just need a bit of hand-holding I think... H and I separated about a month ago after relationship had deteriorated beyond repair. I ended it. Numerous reasons but biggest ones were a) total lack of interest/participation in family life and unwillingness to do anything to change this b) occasional verbal aggression and verbal abuse and c) unwillingness to pull weight financially.
Generally I know I've done the right thing. Don't have any real fundamental doubts about what I've done. And for the first 2/3 weeks I felt actively happy... liberated, sure of myself, attractive and full of energy.
Last week or so, not so much. Suddenly feel very alone, very old (early 40s), incredibly tired, wobbly and not functioning well at work and worried that the best years of my life are behind me. Finding it really hard to keep that elusive new mojo. Suddenly feel a bit blind-sided by all this, having thought I was dealing with it quite well.
Just wondering if that's fairly normal and seeking advice on how to deal really. I think I'm pretty lucky compared to a lot of the people I see on this board, I'm basically OK, not heart-broken, not being left up shit creek financially and my daughter is coping pretty well. Could I be in denial about what I'm going through?
Any advice about how to weather this new period in the cycle?
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Did anyone else initially feel really quite elated after split and then crash a few weeks later?
newnamesamegame · 29/05/2015 20:55
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