Things have been going wrong with my partner for a while and I want to call it a day. I wrote a thread on this yesterday but this is a different issue. Bit of background, were both female I'm 20 she's 28, and this is one of many many problems.
My partner always said she wanted another dog to give her dog some company while she was out and because I had good working hours and so did she it seemed an ideal time to get one. While out she fell in love with a shiba inu, which is a smaller version of the dog she has now. So she asked my opinion I said it would be a good time and would share the responsibility of this puppy because it would be really hard work on her own. We had been living together for 2 months at this point.
This is where issues have started, she paid for the puppy herself however I was paying for half of her food bet bills etc while we were together.
Now were splitting up she's saying she got the puppy more for my benefit because I like puppies?Which isn't true! Of course I like puppies and said I would help with this puppy but when it comes down to it she says the puppy is half mine only when it suits her. For example of I want to go home to see my family says the dog is half mine and I can't be gone for longer than a night. But then dog isn't half mine when she's kicking me out.
She clearly got this dog because it's a minature of her current dog, I always wanted a pug! So she's asking for half of the vet bills, food for the rest of the dogs life. And I really can't imagine anything worse than having to be in contact forever and giving money for a dog I won't be seeing.
I've said I'm happy to take her full time, will give her the full cost she paid and from there on will pay for everything myself, I know she has an attachment to this dog but I don't want to alternate weeks looking after the puppy I just want this to be sorted. I really feel like she uses this puppy to control me, like I offered to take the puppy home with me while I visited family and she said no that's not okay(because she didn't want me to be gone for more than one night) and then when we split
Up tells me to take the puppy home because she doesn't want to get up every morning with her! It's double standards.
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Splitting up, what happens to the puppy?
Daniella195 · 29/05/2015 15:26
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