I'm very worried about my wife. She's dangerously unhappy in her work place and has recently talked about wanting to kill herself. I thought I might see if anyone here can help - it's my first time here so please be gentle.
My purposes are twofold - to see how I can help her situation with coping with the pressures of her work, and to see if there is anything I can do to help in the long term, both in terms of finding a new job and helping establish a support network for her.
As a bit of background - she's an events organiser for a foreign investment bank in central London. In the past she's had normal stress levels however in the past year she's had 2 new bosses who seem to have it in for her and are making her "life hell". She's been looking for a new job for over a year now and although she has got close several times she's never quite got over the finishing line. We're also in the middle of buying our first house and it's gone quite disastrously, with us having to move into temporary accommodation this week due to a few hiccups in the process. This has obviously not helped her stress levels.
Two weeks ago she came home crying, saying that between the stresses of work and the difficulties at home she'd been "thinking of killing" herself.
Then last night she found out that she hadn't even made the pool, let alone been considered, for a job that she'd very much set her heart on. She's at breaking point and is now talking about taking leave due to stress or just leaving the job without a back up plan. I'd love to say I could support her financially but it's just not feasible.
So, I am here asking what I can do. I've talked to her about trying to set up some therapy however she seems quite reluctant. I try to talk to her and be as supportive as I can but whatever my tact it seems to anger her more; I don't mind being a punching bag but can't help but think that it's counter productive. Taking time off with stress seems like career suicide - what can we do?
And what can I do to help her get a new job? She seems to have tried everything and it's not helping. Is there anyone in Events Management that can offer a word of advise?
Thanks for your time.
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bpinapple · 27/05/2015 13:03
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