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Im feeling very alone atm.

(9 Posts)
KongKing Sat 23-May-15 19:21:51

Just posting as a bit of a vent, not sure there is anything to be done.

I just feel really alone recently. I dont really have anyone i am close to or a close group of friends. I was at a friends baby shower today, she used to be a best friend but somehow we've drifted apart. Her mum, sister, aunts, cousins and friends were all there. They rallied and made it a really lovely occasion for her. It dawned on me that i have no-one who would do that for me (and no-one who did although i dont think baby showers were a thing here when i had DCs). I have a mum and sister, aunts cousins and a couple of friends but none of them would do that. Im not close to any of them.

I dont have a partner either which im really feeling right now. I see my friend and her husband and they are great together, no relationship is perfect of course but they really are so good to each other. I have no-one i can vent to in the evenings, or talk over decisions about the DC, or what colour to paint the living room. I know i sound like a whinge but im really feeling it right now. I found today quite unexpectedly hard. I worry this is just how its going to be for me and that thought makes me miserable. I really want to stop being alone in life. Is there a secret or is it just how i am?

PeppermintCrayon Sat 23-May-15 20:08:53

I'm sorry you're feeling alone. I don't have any contact with my family and I worry about this sort of thing too.

You're allowed to 'whinge' about feeling lonely. It's not nothing.

singingbasket Sat 23-May-15 20:50:47

You are not the only one feeling like this today. Normally I am fine with being on my own but everyone I know is out today or at least with someone else and it has made me feel incredibly lonely.

I don't have any suggestions for you but just wanted to say that you aren't alone in feeling this way so I will be watching with interest.

nightshade Sat 23-May-15 20:54:25

I feel alone on occasion even with partner and family. ...its Ok. all those baby showers and stuff aren't all they're cracked up to be......find some new interests that help you enjoy being with yourself......

KongKing Sat 23-May-15 20:55:39

Thank you both. It helps to know im not the only one, perhaps we should start a 'lonely people' group grin

It really hurt seeing my friend so close with her family, and ive been friends with her long enough to have been there when they were not getting on at all (teenage years) yet today they were all so relaxed and friendly with each other. I cant relax with my family, it all feels very stiff and tense.

madmother1 Sat 23-May-15 21:08:49

Ah, I feel lonely sometimes. After being married for 23 years I have found it hard adjusting to my new life. My teenagers have their own lives and both my parents have died. I only have a brother who I'm not close to. I try to meet one of my friends for coffee at least once a week. Invite people to the cinema, join a fitness class. My friends like doing stuff like that without their husbands.Don't envy others.....sometimes it doesn't reflect their real life. Sending you a big hug xxx

KongKing Sat 23-May-15 21:23:17

Im finding it hard to see friends regularly, it should get a bit easier now i have finished my course but i also need to pick up more work now so i wont necessarily have any more time on my hands. DCs dad is being unreliable with his contact too which means making plans difficult. Evenings i have no childcare and any friends have children too so cant really do anything either.

KatyLovesKats Sat 23-May-15 22:18:14

Sending sympathy King, it's hard being alone sometimes - I only work p/t at the moment so can meet friends for coffee on my days off. This keeps me sane! Have you thought of chatting online to people? My friend does this (and has been on some nice dates) but largely does it just for company...

KongKing Sat 23-May-15 22:22:19

I really only use MN for online chatting. I did do online dating a few years ago but really couldnt be bothered wading through the assholes to find the decent ones so gave up. What sort of sites does your friend use?

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