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He's taken an overdose.

(42 Posts)
Allbymyselfagain Thu 21-May-15 21:06:36

What do I do. He's text telling me he's taken an overdose. He won't tell me where he is. I don't want to get sucked back into this but I can't bear the thought of him killing himself. What do I do?

strawberryblondebint Thu 21-May-15 21:07:50

You phone the police and tell them. And then you do nothing. It's not your fault. It really isn't. Hugs

ImperialBlether Thu 21-May-15 21:09:25

You call the police on the non-emergency number. You tell them the message and his phone number, then tell them about his past behaviour which sounds, frankly, very manipulative.

If you do anything else you're playing right into his hands.

FenellaFellorick Thu 21-May-15 21:09:28

You call the police, give them his mobile number and let them deal with it.
His choices are not your responsibility.
If he has taken an overdose then thatis very sad and I hope he gets help but what you describe is not unusual in manipulative people and often they are lying.

flora717 Thu 21-May-15 21:09:33

Agree with ^^ you did not do this.

ImperialBlether Thu 21-May-15 21:12:54

This is the guy who took photos of you and is threatening to send them to family and friends?

Jackw Thu 21-May-15 21:15:35

My dear, this is so common. Why do you think he texted you but won't tell you where he is? To scare the life out of you and make you frantic with guilt. Utterly cruel. As advised above, contact police, they are used to it and will know exactly what to do and then you have done everything in your power to help him (though he's probably just enjoying a couple of beers and enjoying winding you up).

Springintosummer Thu 21-May-15 21:25:26

Yy to calling the police and then switch off your mobile and find something to do to distract yourself. They watching car share on iplayer.

Allbymyselfagain Thu 21-May-15 21:25:41

Phoned his mum.

Springintosummer Thu 21-May-15 21:25:59


pictish Thu 21-May-15 21:30:29

Do not get sucked in.
What has he taken and how much?
I had an ex do this to me once many years ago. Long story short it was bullshit. He just wanted to emotionally blackmail me into getting back together. It didn't work...I told him to call himself an ambulance then I called the local police station and told them where he was.
He was fine.

RandomMess Thu 21-May-15 21:30:44

Hope you're feeling ok. He is 99.9% likely lying through his teeth to abuse and punish you further. Well done for phoning his Mum - he's not your problem/responsibility any more.


Lweji Thu 21-May-15 21:35:39

Do call the police and report it.

I bet he's only doing it to worry you, though.
If he wanted to kill himself he'd just do it.

Lweji Thu 21-May-15 21:37:26

I spent half an hour on the phone to exH when I had just left.
Apparently he had a knife to his throat. He is very much alive.

Allbymyselfagain Thu 21-May-15 21:41:33

Apparently he's flipped out at her, grabbed his keys and left. Fuck knows I know it is manipulative crap.

drudgetrudy Thu 21-May-15 21:42:02

Phone police-not his Mum-she can't do anything about it either and will worry as you are doing. Police will get him help if he genuinely needs it.
If he is genuinely distressed they will sort it and you can talk later. If he is manipulating you in some way a big reaction from you and his Mum won't help.

drudgetrudy Thu 21-May-15 21:43:04

Cross post -sorry.

pictish Thu 21-May-15 21:43:29

For the sake of being a responsible person I think the police should be informed. Not that I think he's your responsibility...just as in a human to human responsibility. But no more than that. Alert the authorities...let them deal.

Fairenuff Thu 21-May-15 21:44:25

Yes, phone 101.

notapizzaeater Thu 21-May-15 21:45:27

Don't be sucked back in :-(

cestlavielife Thu 21-May-15 21:46:14

Phone police.

Allbymyselfagain Thu 21-May-15 21:54:01

She text me. He's back and in bed. She counted the pills. He didn't take as many as he said. She said he's begging her to call me and ask me to speak to him. Ive said to her that I think he needs help but he is not my responsibility and his behaviour is ensuring that i will be blocking any contact from him. I now need to block him. Thank you ladies, I was really scared when I got the text but you've all helped me stay calm enough to think!

Bleachedandscrubbed Thu 21-May-15 21:58:22

Well done you! flowers

Starlightbright1 Thu 21-May-15 21:58:47

Well done for handling it so calmly

drudgetrudy Thu 21-May-15 22:00:30

Well done!

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