A few weeks ago I was visiting my Mum and step Dad, my sister came round for dinner and we were chatting, having a nice meal.
Then my sister came out with this remark -
"That Tory woman wants anyone with mental health problems to wear a wristband, horrible Paki should go back to where she came from".
My jaw dropped and we argued, I agreed that the policy was shocking but as an educated person my sister should be able to argue without resorting to the colour of the woman's skin. She then told me that I didn't understand what "They" are like, which is ridiculous as she lives in a tiny predominantly white village in the north and I live in a city further south which is much more multi cultural. Plus my closest friend (who supported me through post natal depression, while my sister told me I should snap out of it), is of Indian decent. So I do know what "They" are like and "They" are like me and everyone else.
What upset me more was that my Mum didn't say anything, she just sat there. My step Dad made a smart comment straight away "Where from Norwich"? But then he stayed out of it as I don't think he wants to fall out with my sister.
I finished my dinner and went to bed early. The next day I met up with my sister to see if we could talk it through, but she brought a friend with her and they both made faces at my parenting while they let their children misbehave. So I left and we haven't spoken since.
She tried to phone me, but I didn't answer as I was at work. Not wanting to phone her as I wasn't ready to have that conversation, I called my Dad. My sister thinks I'm annoyed with her because my children were being naughty that day and our kids fell out. I told my Dad and he said I was being ridiculous, that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I said that racism isn't an valid opinion though, choosing which party to vote for is an opinion, haircuts are an opinion, racism is HATE. My Dad then went on to say that I'm being the thought police and thats what the Nazi's did. Apparently I should agree with my sister as I've had mental health problems, which makes me want to scream "FUCK OFF" I can disagree with someone's ideas without wanting to rid the country of everyone who's not bloody white.
So my sister is clearly a racist and my Dad agrees with her. My Mum isn't saying anything and I don't know if I want to have the coonversation to find out as she's the only one left and I need her.
I feel utterly disappointed with all of them, I'm not sure I can look at any of them the same way. I don't want to see them and I'm avoiding the phone.
I don't know how I can move past this with them, has anyone got any advice? I've always been very close with my family.
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BearBrickX3 · 14/05/2015 15:43
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